Are you a grandma unhappy with the way your grandchildren are being raised?

Question

I try to stay out of it also but my grandson who is 8 is very unhappy at home and it's hard to keep quiet to prevent rocking the boat i just try to show him as much love as I can when he visits and hope one day soon his mom will change back to the good parent she used to be.(she's married getting a divorce has new Bf who gd kids hate)

Marie m sounds like my garndson he's 8 the otehrs are younger and don't understand but he always says grandma why can't my mom make up her mind one day I can do something and the next day it's wrong he really enjoys the fact that at grandmas rules don't change we have fun but there is a line he knows not to cross and I don't spank just use the grandma voice

Answer 1

I have three grandkids, number four on the way. the eldest is twelve; she lives with her father, her mum is my oldest daughter. She left her with her dad five years ago and went away to work. Her dad is a muslim, and up to then, my daughter had reared her as a christian. I have no problem with this, her dad is a lovely, kind man and I have a great relationship with him . The problem is, the child is totally confused as to what the rules are as regards religion, dress code, behaviour codes, etc. This is leading to a backlash from her as she is starting to rebel. My heart goes out to her as she has been pushed around a lot during her short life. I have considered offering to have her live with me; I know she's happy in my house when she visits, but I don't know how her mum or dad would see this.

Answer 2

i am not but it's entirely different tactics to raise kids nowadays in this generation. look at thing how it change from our great grands (ancestor) time and to raise them the way they were raised will not help any better. even if i'm a mother one day i would not like to raise my kids the way my mom raised me. it's a choice and it's their kids so relax and enjoy your role. no matter whatever happen it's the responsibilities of the parents not yours.

Answer 3

I'm sure all parents have done things their parents didn't like. Unless they are depriving the child of necessary things then dont get involved. Every parent has to raise their own children.

Answer 4

Yes, there are some things that my daughter and her husband do (and don't do) that I don't care for. She was raised better than that. But, as long as it isn't abusive, I stay out of it. It's HER child.