i like this guy and i think he likes me too coz he talks to me at wrk everyday, offer me rides after wrk invited me to have a drink the day before my last day at wrk and now we chat almost everyday. he gave me a ride on my last day and he said that we can't hang out often coz he might not stop himself for doing something. i don't know what to do. i like being near him i don't know what to do because he's married and i have i boyfriend. can't get him off my mind! i want to ask him if his marriage is okey but i don't know how to ask him. I don't know what to do HELP!!!!
2006-11-13 09:42:08 · 51 answers · asked by bella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know it's very hard, but you have to distance yourself from him. He's married, you're with someone...just picture his wife and how she would feel, and how you would feel if someone did that to you.
2006-11-13 09:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by hollym101 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to step the **** back. He is married. That's all you need to know to not have anything to do with him in a romantic sense.
I could care less that you like being near him... because he is married.
You are tempting him, so stop. We women are nasty enough to each other, why not take the high road and put the sanctity of marriage before your lust?
If his marriage is not okay, that is for him and his wife to sort out. After the divorce, fine, give him a call. But until then, control yourself. It's women like you that give the rest of us a bad name.
And why on earth would you want to be with a man that you know is a cheater and a liar? Don't ever forget "What he does with you, he will do to you." And no, this time it is NOT different.
He is married. End of story.
2006-11-13 09:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by misskate12001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away while you still can. You don't want to be known as the home wrecker. You have to consider a lot, especially if he has children. If you do end up presuing this further, you could end up hurt big time. Most of the married guys are just wanting to play with a new toy. He probably would never leave his wife.
If he seriously wants you he should end his marriage before starting up something with you or anyone else for that matter.
2006-11-13 09:53:09 · answer #3 · answered by kennerkitty812 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to ask youself if he is worth all that you have now. you have a bf already and youre moving onto another job. he's married and has built committment with another woman.
do you picture yourself with this new guy in your life a few months down the road?
as a woman, yuo should already know that being in your situation... you should drop the communication between that guy. it wont do anything for you now, nor will it do anything for you later. two seperates lives going in different directions with different people.
dont waste your time wondering about the "what ifs". youre infatuated with this guy, but it's wrong for you to get so involved in his life. imagine how you would feel if you were his wife and you had no clue what was going on until you found out he cheated on you.
be a woman and do the right thing.
2006-11-13 09:53:12 · answer #4 · answered by bjperez07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, How about not asking how his marriage is going because it is none of your business. And he is none of your business because he is married. You HAVE a boyfriend! If you think this guy likes you because of you, your wrong. He is a cheater, plain and simple. So get over him he has no respect for you and is trying to draw you in by his lines of not knowing what he will do with himself. Girl! Please! He knows exactly what he is doing. Do you think your the first one he has cheated on his wife with? Come on, let the jerk go. You deserve better, like what you already HAVE, your boyfriend. Married men that cheat are thinking of one thing only, and they are thinking with the wrong head! So quit answering his calls or just tell him the truth, you don't appreciate people who cheat on their spouses. What would you do if you were in his wife's place?
2006-11-13 09:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in this same situation b4 myself and trust me, get out now.
I am so glad I cut all contact off with the man I was attracted to. He was saying the same stuff to me that this guy is saying to u except that he was telling me he "married the wrong woman", and that he'd "wished he'd met me first" etc., etc.
It's a bunch of bull crap and it's not healthy. You need look at yourself and figure out why u are in this situation. I had to do the same thing.
Don't feel bad for being attracted to him, but u should feel bad if u act on it. I'm so glad I didn't and I hope u make a wise choice as well.
Think about your b/f and also how u would feel if u were his wife.
2006-11-13 09:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T, DON'T, DON'T. That was me three years ago. Today, a broken heart, thousands in therapy and meds for my depression, and lack of trust for the guys I now meet. I know it may be hard to stay away, you can't help how you feel, but PLEASE trust me one this one. I speak from experience. The sucky thing is, even though he broke my heart, I still love him, pretty sad, huh? I'm working on getting on with my life right now, but it has not been easy. I would hate for someone else to go through what I have. If he offers you a ride, politely decline. If he continues to make certain comments, tell him he needs to stop if he wants to stay friends. If he does care for you, then he should be happy having you in his life, even if it is only friends.
2006-11-13 09:50:35 · answer #7 · answered by furbz1977 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run !!! Unless you want a free vacation on the Springer show of course. You will be in the middle of chaos and it could jeopardize your safety. Have you not witnessed crazed ex's going on rampages. Bottom line... BE HONEST with all involved and figure out if your b'friend is the person you want to be with. If you dont know (ie:no), let him know so you both can move on without "using till the next thing" comes around.
2006-11-13 10:01:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over him! He is already taken, and if he has a family - you will have taken part in breaking up a family. If you were married, would you want your husband taking out a single girl for drinks after work. It may have started as a friendship, but please let it go. Nothing good can come of it - for either you or him!
2006-11-13 09:45:38 · answer #9 · answered by Kare♥Bear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh girl. That's wrong. You shouldn't date/be interest in a married man because by the end of the day, they'll never leave their wife for you. Just tell him no the next time you meet him since if you don't, you'll never know when he'll ever leave you alone. Stick with your bf.
2006-11-13 10:08:46 · answer #10 · answered by Iileen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is married. How would you feel if your husband was doing these things with a younger woman? You need to put yourself in the wives shoes and try to answer your questions then.
He is married that means not single!!! If you think you need to be with him then wait till he has the balls enough to get a divorce and I mean GET the divorce not just tell you so!!!
2006-11-13 09:46:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋