help my 5yr. boy showed his private parts?

Question

my 5yr. boy was playing in the room with his friend(5yr.girl)when me and her mom walk in they were under the covers when ask what were they doing niether one of them said anything i ask my son what were they doing and he said they were just playing and stared crying,but the little girl when ask by her mom told her that my son pulled down his pants and showed her his private parts. I don't know what to do i ask him and he said she told him to pull down his pants i don't know what to do who do i belive my son knows better than that. does this make my son a pervert Help me

Answer 1

No! He's not a pervert! He's only 5, and it is completely normal for kids to do that. The only thing is if parents freak out about it and make it seems bad, and make them feel ashamed of their bodies, it could cause some problems. Just explain to him that those are his "private" parts and he always needs to keep his clothes on when he's around his friends and other people. If you don't make a big deal out of it he won't.

Answer 2

Don't worry too much about it. They are about the age that kids start to notice boy/girl differences. However, we unfortunately live in a very sexual world where innocent children are exposed to crude sexual language, behaviors, television etc.
And now a days, children are having children. Just keep a closer watch on the kids to be sure they aren't acting out the things they see around them.
Let him know that other people shouldn't see those things because it might upset them. Maybe it's time for the birds and the bees talk.
Even if you raise your kids with high morals, you have to remember that other people might not do the same. And children are very worried about what their friends think and may buckle under peer pressure.
Good luck. but, no your son isn't a pervert. Just a curious little boy.

Answer 3

Your son is far from a pervert. He's a 5 year old. This is the time in their life where they start to notice the differences between boys and girls and curiousity gets the best of them. Believe it or not, this sort of thing happens a lot to many parents and their kids. The best thing to do is tell your son you know he is curious and if he has any questions, he can talk to you about it. He shouldn't be made to feel ashamed for what he did, but it is important to let him know that pulling his pants down like that can be considered inappropriate behavior. But most importantly, don't make him feel bad for doing so!

Answer 4

Children only experment what they see their parents or others do. Neither child is wrong but must be counceled by the parents that their act is not good, explaining with age why not. The kids did not know and your son is not a pervert. Whipping or punishment is not the answer without the child understanding that he's done something bad. All kids goes through these stages and some parents are shame to say, acting like their kids are good yet have done the same thing.

Answer 5

Well the fact that he started crying makes me think it was probably the other childs idea. However checking each other out is pretty normal. I teach my kids about good touch& bad touch after something like this.happens. That is what is appropriate and not appropriate. It's also important because at this age is when things happen and children are shamed for them! He needs to know that this stuff is for when he grows up and if anyone tries to touch him he needs to tell you!

Answer 6

NO! Your son is not a pervert- he's 5 years old! Children tend to be a bit curious. Don't blame him, he probably regrets it anyways. Don't worry too much- just make sure he doesn't do it again. If he does, tell him how it's wrong and everything will be okay. Good luck.

Answer 7

Although I agree with everyone's statements that curiosity is normal, there is one thing to watch out for. I did this at around the age of 5 as well and I was being molested. My nephew did the same thing with my son as well. When I asked them what they were doing, my nephew replied, "Sexy talk." Turned out, he was also being molested. Please note: I am not trying to say that someone is being molested~ From what you've mentioned it sounds like a simple case of curiosity. Just be on the look out for other signs (not neccessarily of your son but of the other girl) and be glad the he is inquisitive!

Answer 8

well if your son lies often he might be lying!!anyways it doesn't make your son a pervert but this warn you that you have to pay more attention to him because then he could get the habit of doing those things and then you won't be able to stop doing if you don't pay close attention to what he does watches and hears!! but he is just a 5yr old kid so cut him some slack this time!!

Answer 9

He's a child, all children that age are curious and there's nothing wrong with it at all. He's not a pervert, he's a child. You really ought to be questioning yourself if you think that you're 5 year old boy is a pervert.

Answer 10

no your son is not a pervert. little kids like to show them because they know a girl's is different. i've heard of this many times. believe your son you have to trust him and just tell him that he shouldn't be doing that because it's wrong and he's supposed to keep them private.