he told me that he doesn't want me for sex and was scared to do it beacse we had no condom and i once before thouht i was pregnant so i was the agressor. He says he's never stopped feeling for me the way he did before but he's not really telling me enough
2006-11-13 09:26:39 · 30 answers · asked by tari j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It was a "once off" thing. Assume things stand as he said: you're still broken up and he doesn't want to have an exclusively sexual relationship with you.
And use birth control next time - pregnancy and abortions are seriously stressful and a major drag. You getting pregnant is not going to change his mind.
NEXT!
2006-11-13 09:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by Wonderland 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You NEED to ask him. Very important. It's also of major importance to ALWAYS wear a condom. ALWAYS! There is no excuse not too.
You can assume nothing in this situation. Sometimes it's a sign that he wants you back, and sometimes it's just lonliness. The only want to know, is to ask. If you could have sex with him, and be grown up enough to do that...you are grown up enough to insist on birth control and an explanation.
2006-11-13 09:30:07 · answer #2 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all i have to give him props for the condom issue. He is absolutely right in protecting you and himself during sex so you should not hold this against him. Now, as far as him wanting you back...just because a man has sex with you does not mean he wants to be with you or wants to be involved in a serious relationship. Listen to your gutt feeling, woman have a wonderful sense of intuition and I have to say 99% of the time this intuition does not fail. You should know whether he is serious or not by the attention that he gives you outside of intimacy. Be wise and dont confuse sex with love in a relationship, its great to have great sex but it is even better to have a great love and if you have them both...you are one of the lucky ones
2006-11-13 09:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by jayjay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many guys will say ANYTHING to get sex. If he hasn't approached a relationship reconsiliation then do not sleep with him. If he pouts and throws a fit about it, that will pretty much tell you where he stands. If he reacts otherwise, and you talk things out...then perhaps he is for real. But don't fall into the on again off again trap...defer back to the first line.
Good luck.
2006-11-13 09:38:51 · answer #4 · answered by Randal D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had sex- w your x and not protection-!! not wise- maybe you used each other- no telling-keep your pants on- and why did you breakup-?? if you think a condom will break the mood and the spontaneity- think what a crying baby will do- use your head- not your hormones- D
2006-11-13 09:31:42 · answer #5 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So WHY did did you guys break up? If it was over a petty fight, then he probably is telling the truth. But if he just didn't want to be with you anymore, then something is off. I would talk this out completely and keep it in your pants.
2006-11-13 09:30:30 · answer #6 · answered by *mxgirl115* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i was with a guy for 6 years, when we broke up we did the same thing and it was so hard on both of us. That we decided to quit each other cold turkey! It was the best thing i have ever done! its very hard because all of our friends we our friends, so in the end i was very alone. But i have new friends and new hot guys in my life... Friends with benefits with ex boyfriends never works out!!!!
2006-11-13 09:32:23 · answer #7 · answered by shelbel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow,thats pretty confusing-but hey!theyre guys.ive been goin through the same debate with my ex.we dated for 7 months and 2 weeks before we broke up i gave him my virginity.then two weeks later he broke up with me.i was so hurt and confused cause i had given him something so precious and he dumps me.the night after he did,i called him and we talked for a good hour about our feelings towards one another.he told me he still loved me but he couldnt stand havin an emo gf(another story)i didnt believe him.a week after we broke up he asked me if we could ever have sex again...like friends with benefits.i said yes but then i realized what i was doin was wrong because i was becoming even more emotionally attached to him.we never really cleared things up but this is what ive evaluated:we both loved each other and we still do.we both gave each other our virginity because we loved each other so much.but now its time to move on.only you can figure out whats truly and deeply goin on in your heart.do you trust him?do you think he was in it for sex?does he love you?you may want advice but ive realized that only i can help myself with that problem.it all depends on your emotions and feelings towards him.i hope i helped.if you ever wanna talk my e-mail is foblovr351@yahoo.com
alisha
2006-11-13 09:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by foblovr351 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm... yeah it sounds like he likes you hes just sort of scared to tell you if that makes any sense. but the fact that all you guys did when he came over was have sex makes me think that sex is all he wants... you should look into that part of it a little bit more!
2006-11-13 09:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you have a bf? How are going to loose your virginity to a fcucking black guy?!!!! Have some self appreciate. This black guy does not even likes you all he needs to do is have intercourse with you so he can coach off in fron of his buddies. What i are not getting is how are you going to enable some guy only seize you and kiss your boobs? the place is that solid woman that get solid grades and is going to church. if your incredibly attractive? then masturbate.
2016-10-22 00:56:45 · answer #10 · answered by hosford 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋