The situation is this, my mother is in contact with sisters that my grandfather had with another woman. The situation is so messed up that my mother's sisters are older than my grandmother. I have never met them and the rest of the family feels uncomfortable around them because of these issues. Most of the rest of the family has never met them either.
2006-11-13 09:22:24 · 18 answers · asked by derryn_m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This is your wedding and you do not need to invite them. The rule of thumb is, if you haven't talked to a someone in over a year, they are not required to be on the guest list. Never speaking to them would probably qualify :)
If I was you, I would find some reasons for why your mother can't invite these "sisters" if saying NO just simply isn't working. Maybe the guest list is too big or it's getting too expense to keep adding people to the list.
I whole heartedly agree with you -- these women don't need to be at your wedding and your mom needs to understand that it is your choice and your wedding.
2006-11-13 09:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Susie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no.. I probably wouldn't invite them. I know this is your family, but they have not been around all of this time. I don't think they'd care too much. I definitely would not like any of the other family to feel unconfortable around them. Although I wish other family members would just forgive and forget the damage that was done by your grandfather.
Maybe a family reunion would be better for the meet and greet.
2006-11-13 17:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you should invite them then okay...but its your wedding you're supposed to share that day with people you choose too. If you think this is going to cause you a lot of stress over people who chances are feel just as uncomfortable around you, considering they don't know you. Then don't worry about inviting them, no one can be put out if its someone you don't know.
2006-11-13 17:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your wedding and you should do as you want.
You dont want and need to be worrying about how everyone is feeling on your wedding day if this person comes, so since you dont know her then it shouldnt be a big deal. You shouldnt let anyone push you into inviting someone you dont want there whatever the reasons may be!
All the best!!!
2006-11-13 17:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by Just ME!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people have a hard enough time figuring out how they can afford to invite the people they do see and want there, keep it to those who mean something to you and just politely ( if anyone asks) say you had to narrow the list down to those in your more immediate family and friends. Good luck!
2006-11-13 17:31:16 · answer #5 · answered by justcurious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not required to invite anyone. Most people would say that your parents and siblings should be invited, but the truth is that even that is not required. Your wedding guest list whould consist of those who you are close to and have a relationship with.
2006-11-13 21:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe if you have never met the person or people you shouldn't invite them. Unless you were invited to something of theres. If they are not a part of your life don't bother. If you don''t send them a Christmas card every year don't bother
Thats what I was told
2006-11-13 19:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't . invite people you've never met to your wedding. Especially people you aren't comfortable with; it's a ceremony for the bride and groom and the people closest to them. There's nothing to feel embarrassed or guilty about; I'm sure they don't expect to be invited. Why would they?
2006-11-13 17:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by chelleedub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a situation like this, I think it's a nice idea. Would be a good family time to get everyone together and acquainted.
2006-11-14 07:00:29 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding & the 2 of you should make the decision who to invite.
2006-11-13 17:30:05 · answer #10 · answered by day by day 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋