My Son is failing 9th grade!?

Question

My Son is 15 years old in 9th grade he is failing 4 out of 7 classes. He has 4 Fs, 2 Ds and a C. I have tried everything to motivate him. I have grounded him, taken away privileges, tutoring, everything. He just does not care. He does not have a learning disability, he is just lazy. He does not fear consequences and says that "school is not for him". HELP ME! I'm raising a LOSER.

Answer 1

Welcome to today's generations of kids. I'm glad to read that you KNOW he's just being lazy rather than making excuses for him (that seems to be the trend these days). School is for anyone with half a brain and a desire to move out of the house. If he has neither, maybe he's right. Otherwise, he needs to change. Remember the transition from middle school to high school can be a big one for some kids- middle schoolers are used to having a lot of things done for them, and high schoolers have to fend for themselves more. Once he fails this year and has to go through summer school, he may change his tune. My brother certainly did, and he's doing great in college (living on his own in another state and everything). I'd definitely revoke driving privileges completely until his grades are acceptable (and to me, Cs are acceptable-nothing lower). If school's not for him, then neither is getting a successful job. There's no need for a car if you don't have any money to spend. Good luck!

Answer 2

I have a 17 year old nephew that had similar problems. It took 2 years but he finally is on the right track now. They have a program in our school that helps kids when they are struggling with classes and it helped him greatly.
Ask your son what he wants to do with his life after school? Ask him if he's bored with school and what would make it better?
Does he have any hobbies? Does he have a job?
Get in touch with the guidance councelor at school and set up an appt for all of you together. They might have a program or some other kind of help that could be beneficial to him.
Never ever call him a loser! That's not what's going on at all.

Answer 3

ok first off:
HE NEEDS A JOB ASAP
he needs to learn the value of a dollar and making $5 an hour minimum wage, for some hard work, like fast food etc will teach him that SCHOOL PAYS OFF so you dont have to work in crappy jobs with low pay. second stop buying him anything that isnt food, stuff for school, necesitties. he can buy anything extra (fun stuff) with his new job. my parents were poor i had a job when i was 16, and i had a 3.6 gpa i go to college now and work full time because i want to have a job making good money eventually. your son has too much security from you and needs to learn that he will be out on his own one day and he needs to start planning to support himself. make him go to a tutor, sit down with him everyday and help him with his school, maybe he is getting into drugs or the wrong crowd, alot of kids in h.s. are nowadaysare doing drugs and its not just the kids that dress all crazy its the rich baseball players and cheerleaders too. friends are very important to teenagers, take away hhis friends until the grades come up. just stay on him, alot of people i know wish they had parents that had more control and watched out for them more bc they would have stayed out of alot of trouble that way. good luck!! hope this helps

Answer 4

Ok, im not even as old as your son, but here goes:
1) Send him to boot camp/some place with hard labor.
2) Take away ALL and I mean ALL of his privalages
3) If you have the time and money, homeschool him
or...
4) Offer him rewards if he does it all right.

Answer 5

first of all... DONT CALL HIM A LOSER! if you want him to care about school how do you think he will do that him you call him names that might discourage him. you also lay off his back for a little while. im not saying dont care about his school anymore but jsut dont yell right away at him. see if it makes a difference or not... also you might want to find out the reason he doesnt "care". maybe it is to be "cool" or a social issue in school. try talking to him and finding out. if he doesnt want to talk or says there isnt anything wrong, ask him why he doesnt want to work hard and why he doesnt care about school. try getting some answers out of him.

hope that helped!

Answer 6

try looking into private school where he can learn what he's interested in.
public school isn't for everyone, but he does still have things to learn. he's not a loser! he probably learned differently than most people his age.
he probably has a big heart and has a hard time dealing with kids his own age. he probably knows lots of people but has few friends. i know the type. if he's not 'into' it he won't learn it. there's no reason to.

Answer 7

Tell your son all the troubles he's putting you through. And ask him what will become of him when he grows older. Be supportive of him though, and give him privelages to a certain extent. Make him respect you, himself, and others. Tell him even to just try his best. This may also be just a phase teenagers go through. You never know...

Answer 8

send him to a tough school likeboot camp. or just let him fail and learn the hard way of life and please if hes not doing good in school dont give him a learners or permit until hes responsible

Answer 9

well try to boost his confidence like believe in him, and make him believe in himself and there is always that sylvan tutors advertised on tv. and make him study more. take his cell phone or whatever privilleges away until his grades get better.

Answer 10

Send him to boot camp or something with tough labor and if stops doing his homework keep him in there. Don't let him get his license too.