OK here is my situation. There is this guy who I have had a crush on for a long time. I thought that I was over him.... but I definatly am not now. He has a girlfriend now so I know there is no possibility that he could like me back. I want to stop liking him but I can't. He is a good friend that I see every day so I do not want to avoid him and I still want to be friends. I like to hang out with him and be friends but I just can't stop liking him. Please dont tell me I will just get over it. I have been trying for a year but I still keep liking him!! I try to stop liking him and then we will be hanging out or whatever and I start to like him all over again. Please help me to solve this situation I dont want to like him more than a friend but I cant stop it!!!
2006-11-13 09:16:08 · 16 answers · asked by senoritadolche 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am not trying to steal him.... I do respect their relationship which is why I am not making a move. It is just so annoying that I cant get over him. He is just very flirty with me and I know that is just his personality but it keeps hurting.
2006-11-13 09:23:21 · update #1
hmm thats gotta be way hard for ya sorry hun. but is there any chance u see them breakinup soon? if so jus talk to him and let himknow u have liked himfor alongggg time and tried to stop but u cannt , im sure uwill get a chance with him and chances are he likes u back but never wanted to tell u in case he ruined the friendship. guys are jus as insecure as girls
2006-11-13 09:19:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All is fair in love and war.
Ask him out. Seriously. He might accept your offer for a date.
I am of the strong opinion that single men and women cannot be friends. (by single, I mean unmarried. Boyfriend/Girlfriend are still single.) If I may be so bold, I suggest that the only reason why you are "friends" with this guy is because you have a romantic interest in him, and you are just waiting for the opportunity to move in should he break up with his girlfriend. Am I right?
So, if he tells you no, you have lost nothing. If he says yes... congratulations. You are in the game. Good luck. Let us know what happens.
2006-11-13 17:23:15 · answer #2 · answered by Jack C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a girlfriend, back off. If they break up, he's fair game. And maybe in the mean time you could spend more time with friends, find someone else to crush on, or something like that.
2006-11-13 17:19:32 · answer #3 · answered by itsallforyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you feel like. I had a HUGE crush on my ex-bf's cousin, after we broke up, for almost 2 years. I just couldn't get him out of my head, and when we all hung out, it just got worse. At the end of my sophmore year,I started talking to a guy that was really nice to me and we ended up dating for about 6 months, I know..not a very long time, but now when I think about that crush I had I realize now that it would've never worked out. I know you like him alot, believe me, I know. But, you can't just wait around for one guy forever. Date around, if he wants there to be more than just friends, he'll let you know.
2006-11-13 17:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by Amber R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one problem is, he is around you. Stop hanging with him.
Number two problem is, sounds like you want what you can't have, that is normal for some people. It's like getting permission from your parents to do something, then when you get their OK, you didn't really want to do that anyway and it doesn't seem so important anymore.
2006-11-13 17:25:53 · answer #5 · answered by Momwithaheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can still like him as a friend or former lover especially since you seem to not want to have him back in the lover category. But you must learn your own limits...and if you get closer to him than you want it is up to you to make the move away.
2006-11-13 17:20:30 · answer #6 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can keep liking him but do NOT act on it because he has a girlfriend. Just respect their relationship and try and date someone if you can't handle it. When he is single again, let him know how you feel. Please do not tamper with other people's relationships, it's not cool!
2006-11-13 17:20:38 · answer #7 · answered by *mxgirl115* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start putting your energy into someone else! Liking someone else will take all the feelings away you have for him, to the new guy. Start dating new guys, haven't you dated anyone else in the past year? Maybe that's the problem!
2006-11-13 17:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to feel that way...I mean seriously...the whole day would just be about him...good thing while I don't see him anymore I turned my attention to other things I wanted to do and the next thing I know I didn't miss him as much.
2006-11-13 17:30:07 · answer #9 · answered by anna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be almost impossible to stop liking him if you two are always hanging out together,...UNLESS you find a new boyfriend to keep your mind of the old one.
2006-11-13 17:18:59 · answer #10 · answered by Lara Croft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋