How old is too old to beat your child???

Question

How old is too old to be your child?? My 13 year old son is very disrespectful to me and my husband. He curses us out, spits on us and even beats us with our own personal collection of whips and chains. I have asked him very nicely on several occasions to stop disrespecting us but he refuses. Should I take a belt to his behind or just accept as a boy being a boy? Please help me I need your advice??

Answer 1

Take his whips and chains away, ground him, and go to walmart. Get some of those long craft rods that's 1/2 an inch in diameter. They don't do damage but they hurt way worse than a belt, believe me. And also get a smaller one, they sting more.

Oh and keep him grounded don't just say you are grounded, but actually take out any electronics or games from his room, take away his cell phone or ipod or whatever junk he has and keep him in his room no tv no friends

Answer 2

Oooh now a 13 year old too... and more whips and chains...

Flush-off!

So far you have: a teenage son who beats you (twice)? A 6-month old who's "asking about college"? A 17 year old nephew who showers with his mom? A young neice and nephew that break all your dishes, have their own whips and chains and pee on your table? A perv high school janitor and you apparently work in a sick fast food restaurant (from which you were recently fired for not wearing a skirt.) Whips and chains have come up 4 times in 8 questions... Call Dr. Phil.

The question about a father who's had a stroke actually sounds vaguely realistic, but I gotta say I'd have probably had a stroke too if you were my kid... he must be very proud.

This and your other degenerate, phony questions are not the purpose of Yahoo Answers (but at least now you're getting to be the little girl that cried wolf and practically no one believes any of your cr*p anymore.)

(I'll keep taking 2 points for each question you post though with this same response...)

Then I'll thank the powers that be that there's a limit to how many questions one idiot can ask in a day...

Answer 3

Well i would let him go to school and that day i would remove everything out of his room and put it in storage. Then i would lock your whips away and not let him know where they are, even if that means into storage for now. Leave him with a bed clothes and bedding oh and all his school things.also remove his door and tell him that when he decided to respect you and his dad then he can start having his things back. He has to understand that until he turns 18 he is a child and that right now he is acting like a baby and if that's what he wants to be then you will treat him that way. Also make it clear that if he touches you or his dad again that you will call 911 and he will have to answer the cops.
And i am sorry but if you think that a boy being a boy means he does what he wants then you and him are very wrong. Good luck and i would love to help if you want to im me.

Answer 4

Part of your problem is the whips and chains- he doesn't want to know that his parents are sexual people with their own PRIVATE proclivities. That can be seen as being child abuse. Step 1; remove the collection. Step 2; keep your sexuality out of the equation. Step 3; Your husband should be the one to discipline your son-you "asking" him to stop is pointless. A beating must be ONLY applied to his rear with the flat leather of a belt or a silicone egg-lifter: something that will not bruise or break the skin. Step 4: Do not discipline out of anger or when you lose your cool; do it factually and be precise in why you are doing it. Step 5; reinforce that beating with time spent talking to him and helping him out in his everyday life-homework etc. He has to see you both as the parents with the knowledge and experience that deserves his respect. You'll find that there will be less need for physical disipline and he will respond better when you ask him to do things. He needs to know you are not afraid to deal with him if he IS going to behave in a rude or bad way. And remember, if you curse or behave in a manner that is not acceptable, he will copy you. You are the #1 role models in his life.

Answer 5

The question isn't how old is too old, but WHAT IS AN EFFECTIVE DISCIPLINE? What would really show him YOU are BOSS and he's CROSSED the LINE?
Take away video games? computer? grounded in his room? cell phone? a belt to the behind? go without A meal?
Each child's desires and wants are different. But what ever it is it HAS TO BE EFFECTIVE.
He wants to KNOW his boundries and right now he's testing them. Do you LOVE ME enough to put forth the EFFORT to SHOW ME you CARE? And caring enough can be hard work and some tough love.
ALWAYS after the discipline, (they should be humble) talk to your child and try to have BOTH of you LEARN from this situation. Help them realize you LOVE THEM, just not the way they have been acting. Keep communications open, you won't regret it. ~TM

Answer 6

You should never hit a child at any age. That is abuse. If he was hit as a child, that is why he is hitting now. I wish I could give you some ideas to use, but my child is only three. I think thirteen must be a tough age for parents and children. Maybe a parenting group would be a place to start. Family and Children Services maybe able to help too. They may be able to get help for your son and find away to protect you as well. You are really in a tough situation. I hope someone can give exactly where/how to find some guidance.

I hope things get better for all of you. There is still hope. Don't give up.

Answer 7

Give him a taste of his own medicine I say.
You'll (possibly) go to jail for assault they (the naysayers) will say.
Isn't the younger generation just lovely?
Bad influences everywhere.
Peers that undo everything you teach them because the children want to fit in.
I honestly wish I knew what to tell you.
If he's THAT out of control threaten or try and have him removed from the house.
Call the police and file assault charges on him.
It may take doing this a few times before they'll actually remove him (you have to prove a pattern of violence) but then you'll have the law and the courts on your side.
If he realizes that you're NOT going to tolerate after you call the first time and stops, hopefully that'll be the end of it.
If not, just tell him that you're NOT going to tolerate that kind of behavior and disrespect in your home and if he can't conform, you're going to follow this ALL the way through.
BOL

Answer 8

This is a joke, right? Put away those whips and chains and forget about them. What sort of home is it that your son has access to whips and chains?
no wonder he has no respect if he witnessed your use of them. I believe smacking has very limited value, and he is far too old to be smacked. you will need to sit down with him and have a chat. Tell him what the rules are in the house, tell him he's on trust, and trust him. If he misbehaves, treat him as you would an adult. Withdraw priviliges, and stick to it. You may have to use tough love, but make sure he knows you love him.

Answer 9

I would actually slap my son so hard that he wouldn't know what hit him, when i was growing up if i did anything wrong it was a slap across my face, because at the end off the day children do need to be disciplined there not getting enough in school so it is up too the parents to do it, if i were you i wouldn't be so nice too him now because he has gone too far, you and your husband need too show him who is boss, you are never too old too hit your children. if all else fails seek professional advise

Answer 10

They're never too old to beat. Have you ever heard of "Spare the rod and spoil/hate your child?". It seems like your son is VERY hateful to you and your husband. Of course you should punish him. I never knew a son could be that abusive to his parents. YOu have to take action. He thinks you're being too nice and that you can't do anything about him. To him right now, you are powerless. You have to punish him and beat him. You have to show him who's boss and not let him control you. You're his mother, after all.