My 6 month-old has always been VERY friendly. But lately, she's "scared" of some people,especially those with loud laughter. My mother-in-law has a boyfriend, who has a loud laughter, and my daughter is so afraid of him. When he comes to visit, she could be all smiles, and as soon as she sees him, she starts to pout, and to cry. I know that she will eventually grow out of it, and that it's only a "phase", but my mother-in-law INSISTS on bringing the baby closer to him. yesterday, she even asked him if he wanted to hold her! I felt a bit upset, to be honest, because she didn't ask ME if it was ok, and she knows the baby is scared of that man, why can't she wait until later, when the baby feels more comfortable around him? By the way, he laughed when he had her on his lap, and sure enough, she started to cry! Is it necessary to put the baby thru that? Could it be better if my MIL would give her time to get used to seeing him around? How can I talk to her about this without upseting her?
2006-11-13 09:03:15 · 12 answers · asked by lost in space 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talk to your mother in law! Be sensitive about it, and just be honest. Tell her that you would not want to exclude her boyfriend from family functions, visits, and such, but that you would be so appreciative if she didn't push him on her (not using those words, lol). Tell her that you respect her and her relationship, and him, and would never want to hurt his feels which is why you're telling her. You want the baby to be more comfortable with him, and she needs time to slowly warm up to him. Anyway, talking to her in a sensitive manner is totally necessary.. try practicing what you will say, and running it by your wife. Good luck!
2006-11-13 09:15:51 · answer #1 · answered by Emo B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your Mother-in-law and tell her. This is your child, and your home. Babies are scared of loud noises. There is no need in her pushing your child onto this man. Sometimes you can't help but upset someone. Your baby is crying for a reason, weather anyone understands them or not. Put a stop to it before it gets way out of hand. Be honest about how you feel and she should respect you enough to listen. She should of already known the baby was scared of loud noises. It can also make your child nervous.
2006-11-13 09:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by CHEROKEE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OOH! Sticky situation! NO, your baby should NOT have to be stressed out like that. I would just tell them both that you noticed that 'recently' your baby has been very sensitive to 'loud noises' like loud talking or 'loud laughter' and ask them to try to speak/laugh more quietly until this phase has passed. That way, you're not really specifically being critical of one person but of people in general. They should get the hint but if not, keep reminding them 'for the baby's sake.' You are a wonderful and sensitive parent and should be commended for being so concerned about your child's welfare and happiness! Happy holidays and good luck! :)
2006-11-13 09:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by mychemicalromancelover 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She may be upset no matter how you put it to her...so just put it to her. Its YOUR baby and you have the right to or not to have her around whom you like. On the other hand...what better way for the baby to get use to this guy than to actual be around and held by him. His laughter is NOT going to change so your baby will have to take him as he is and thats not a bad thing. We are talking about a 6 month old and your baby needs to get use to the sounds of the world...including the loud sounds.
2006-11-13 09:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell you mother in law to stop her boyfriend from laughing around the baby or perhaps limit his visitation around the baby until she kinna outgrow this situation. Most babies does this with strangers reason unknown. My grandbabies when they was that age did the same thing until I had to call her mothert to come and get her. Probably you would want to wait until the baby is somewhat older before exposing her to others cause some babies cannot tolerate as well as others can.
2006-11-13 09:30:39 · answer #5 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would remind your MIL that your daughter doesn't like him because of his laughter and that you the father (and try to get your daughter to agree and tell her with you) don't want her forced to be around him while she is still scared of him and that you don't like to see your daughter that upset. If it keeps happening maybe she shouldn't bring him with her when she comes to visit and that you are only looking out for your daughter's well being and being a responsible and loving father.
2006-11-13 15:46:09 · answer #6 · answered by playfulcandy26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest about it, tell her that the baby does not feel comfortable around him and that until she is you don't want him holding her. sure this may upset her a bit, but think of it this way would you rather see her upset or your baby? your baby may be getting some bad vibes off this guy, so just tell your mil. this is your daughter after all.
2006-11-13 09:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by here to help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 05:53:00 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is your baby and you should be the one calling the shots when it comes to her!! so you need to let your mother in law know in a nice way that you are daddy and you would like to be asked before she decides to put your baby in someones arms!!! she don't know unless you tell her! so tell her!!!
2006-11-13 09:10:13 · answer #9 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're screwed she is going to get mad no matter how you say it,Question is would you rather have an angry mother in law or a crying baby?
2006-11-13 09:07:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋