How long would you wait before giving up on a long term (almost 8 years) relationship?
2006-11-13 08:36:48 · 36 answers · asked by Maggie67 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We've been living together for 7 years, dating for 8 years. We've both been married/divorced before. So far our relationship has outlasted both of our marriages. So why doesn't he propose?
2006-11-13 09:12:42 · update #1
you dont need a marriage certificate and ring on your finger for it to be the real deal...you have been with your partner for almost 8 years now....why give it up now....if your happy and love eactother that is all that is needed
2006-11-13 08:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
8 years! girl if he doesn't know by now he will never know. There are two sides to this story I had a girlfriend that on the first date with her now husband he told her he would never get married she told him one day she would. he just said that for no reason. They dated for 3 years and then she would pressure him a little but he wasn't giving in. Finally they broke up and she told him she wanted to find someone that wanted the same things in life she did. Guess what he did he begged her to come back and 3 months later he proposed and they got married. A lot of guys do this but if after 2 years a guy is not sure and you are move on that is a long enough time for you to really know what you want from that person. But after 8 girl you better call it quits before you become an old lady with no husband. If he wants you he will come after you.
2006-11-13 08:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About 5 years ago. I played the waiting game... until I finally forced the issue and now... I'm divorced. If he hasn't asked by now and you never discuss it... it's something you should question. Are you willing to just be in the relationship with no further commitment or do you want that marriage commitment? It's a matter of what you want in life. Good luck.
2006-11-13 08:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by funkydesign03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're happy then there is no reason to worry about marriage...however, if you AND your man are interested in having a family then you should get married. Maybe it's time for a heart to heart talk about it. My husband and I were married after 8 years...but I was happy the whole time, so it was no big deal. I would never leave a happy relationship just b/c of that unless I really wanted children...have the talk...make sure you are on the same page.
2006-11-13 08:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by rattgrrrl 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't wait that long obviously he should know before 8 years I mean do you have 8 years to give to every guy you date. I give it a year if he isn't making comments pointing to a futuer together after a year then he probably won't but I know a lot of couples who got married after 3 months to I guess to each it's own! Good Luck!
2006-11-13 08:40:00 · answer #5 · answered by MelC 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
First of all what might be right for me may not be right for you with that being said! How old are you? what is the real deal with the communication between the two of you? Eight years to propose that is why I asked.is he married to a norther woman?
2006-11-13 08:52:51 · answer #6 · answered by jetrose2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is really no time limit as long as u feel tht u guyz r ready but if u feel tht u guyz r ready and he doesnt seem 2 do anything, i suggest u 2 move on...my cuz hav been with her bf 4 10 yrs and they got married last year and my sis has been with her bf for 6 years and they r still maintaining a really good relationship
2006-11-13 08:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by Em 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on why he hasn't proposed yet. If it's valid then I would understand. But 8 years is a really long time. I would be asking him what is up.
2006-11-13 08:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by The Steele's 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My general time line would be: 18 months of exclusive, monogamous dating, a proposal, and possibly 6-8 months later, the wedding, with pre-marital counseling as a requirement.
2006-11-13 08:39:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would already be gone, eight years is a long time to be still figuring out if this is the person I want to marry
2006-11-13 08:40:34 · answer #10 · answered by joker:P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't wait more than a week longer if I were you. 8 yrs is too long to be dating. Sorry hun, but I'm not saying to necessarily give him the big ultimatum. You know in your heart if he is the one and if he feels the same way.
2006-11-13 08:39:21 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋