My son and his GF split about 4 months ago. She has told me how she feels about him but I don't want to get involved in the situation. They were together for about 4yrs and are both as stubborn as one another. I have told her I think all they need is time apart and he could be giving her this chance to go away and do what she wants to do. He is not going anywhere and is totally dedicated to the family business. How do I help these 2! She is very open with her feelings and regrets leaving but she says the time apart has made her realise how much he means to her. I know she has been down to see him a few times and stayed with him and left early in the morning.
Concerned Mother - Wellington
New Zealand
2006-11-13 08:32:03 · 19 answers · asked by Jack 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I don't want either of them to get hurt. I would really like him to give her a second chance but like to stay out of his private life as he doesn't talk about it and never has!
2006-11-13 08:33:08 · update #1
He also has a few decisions to make eg if he wants to carry on the business from his father etc. Do you think this may be the case? If he didn't want her to stay he would tell her wouldn't he?
2006-11-13 08:36:55 · update #2
Even tho he lost a limb before they even met she can see past that. I don't want him to end up with Money Hunting girls. I know this girls feelings are real and she is sorry she ever walked out but he didn't treat her very well and he admits that. The fact she is willing to give him another chance well ....shouldn't he be over the moon even though he says it didn't work last time so why would it this time! This is the first break up they have had in this time.
2006-11-13 08:52:41 · update #3
As hard as it is, try to stay out of it. If you get involved, you could end up being blamed for something going wrong. I'm sure your son knows how she feels, if she's really that open and honest with her feelings. It's up to them to work it out. You can be a friend to talk to and a shoulder to cry on, but it's ultimately up to them to decide how to continue with their relationship.
Good luck.
2006-11-13 08:35:57 · answer #1 · answered by Stacey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U`r doing exactly the right thing already, u`r being a good listener to her and not taking sides. Sounds to me like they`re already sorting this out and if she has told him how she feels and has stayed over then i think you can safely assume they`re on the mend! The course of true love never runs smooth so they say. Keep doing wot your doing, i hope i get a future mother-in-law like you one day too! Oh and try not to worry!!
2006-11-13 08:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by sandy g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should continue to stay out of it. You don't want to be the bad guy in the event that you share information with either of them, they get back together and then have a nasty break up. Just listen as you have been doing, but keep the conversations to yourself.
2006-11-13 08:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What a horrid undertaking! it is unhappy to be attentive to that maximum of people nevertheless think of like this. Did the mummy and dad be attentive to which you're wiccan till now she got here to artwork there, or is your faith easy know-how at artwork? i'm merely taken aback that she could be allowed to artwork with an "evil devil worshiper". If her mum and dad are so brainwashed to tell their new child which you will hex, or poison her I dont understand their letting her be in any touch with you. i myself sense sorry for the lady in all this. She ought to be frightened of you! My suggestion is to easily go away issues on my own. proceed to act as you often could if she have been anybody else. Be superb, talk to her as you could the different co-worker. according to risk she would be waiting to make certain which you're no longer the demon her mum and dad paint you to be. yet once you attempt to communicate to her approximately it, i'm confident it is going to reason difficulty. Thats a confident way for her to declare which you're attempting to "very own" her or another nonsense. bright advantages
2016-12-14 06:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are such a thoughtful mom! It's clear that you aprove of her and want them together, as they seem to be meant for each other.
I understand that you want to help, but is ukltimatly your son's decision. If he is hurt by her abandoning him, he is in his own right to be skeptical of comebacks.
My suggestion to you is to set them up on a date. Tell her to meet you for dinner at X resttaurant at Y hour. Tell your son the same and let then meet and see what happens.
Best of luck!
2006-11-13 08:36:14 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a mother. What I love about my Mom is she always says what she feels. You taking a back seat on this may mean your son will miss out on his possible soul mate. Nudge them in the right direction. Dont push just hint.
2006-11-13 08:36:58 · answer #6 · answered by Carrie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely stay out it. Even though you are a concerned mom, this isn't any of your business. Your son has to make his own choices.
2006-11-13 11:22:19 · answer #7 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your son on a friendly matter and just tell him not to hurt this nice girl. If he doesn't want to be with her he should tell her so she can move on. But tell him and her both they need to be adults and work it out between each other it's a learning experience.
2006-11-13 08:36:52 · answer #8 · answered by Venus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him find the way by himself. I remember my Mom always momling how the previews gf was better then the new one - I hate it. Is his life and his choice to choose - trying to make his mine is bad idea. Let him deal with it. Don't be involved - he has plenty of time to make decision and be responsible for.
2006-11-13 08:42:19 · answer #9 · answered by Toto 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Mom would make her feeligs known and then let me make my decision. If it isnt brought to his attention by you then by whom?As a Mom I am sure you have his best interests at heart as I am sure he already knows. Talk to him, you dont have to per say " get involved but let him know that you think it would be a good idea.
2006-11-13 08:36:35 · answer #10 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋