2006-11-13 08:31:03 · 16 answers · asked by NINA A. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How long has it been? Generally, you wait a year before putting up the permanent monument. If it has been a year, then ask her. She may be unable to face the task. She might welcome the help.
2006-11-13 08:34:26 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i think that it is a wonderful idea. bit in order to find out if this is something you can do call the cemetery where he has been layed to rest. the wife may not be able to afford to get him one. may i ask why you don't just talk to her about this? i know that when my father past away my step mother asked for a double plot, but she never paid for the second one just the one my father is in. therefore anyone including a non family member can buy the second plot.
2006-11-13 16:49:48 · answer #2 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is key...
Is she still grieving, is money tight, etc. It could easily be assumed that she has not done this for some "negative" reason, but in reality, if you don't talk to her, you really don't know.
Just attempt to be fair and show the respect and concern in a sensitive situation like this, that you would want shown to you, if you were in her shoes...
Be blessed.
2006-11-13 16:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Albritton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i am sure that you can . has she not put one on there because they are very exspensive i know when my first husband died i felt so bad because his parents had to put the headstone on there because i could not afford it.Yes just make sure that you include her in the decision making because it would be a nice gesture. If you all dont get along I would still let her in on it because it is her right to be included. good luck and god bless and I am sorry for your loss. Happy thanksgiving. I will pray that all goes smoothly.
2006-11-13 16:35:19 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How long since the passing. sometimes it takes a few months even a year, because the ground has to settle before they will put it in. Hope this was a help, sorry for your loss
2006-11-13 16:39:24 · answer #5 · answered by DC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know the situation? Has she ordered one? Is she saving for one? Does she plan on having one done in the future?
ASK HER! Communication helps most all situations! She might love it if you helped her with this?
2006-11-13 16:33:38 · answer #6 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you could, but I think you should ask jer first, she may have wants to also but didn't have the money, so ask her to be on the safe side, and I'm also sorry for your lost.
2006-11-13 16:37:45 · answer #7 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can, but keep her involved and let her know that you are planning on doing this. That way she won't get the feeling that you are doing this behind her back.
2006-11-13 16:37:07 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
PLease consult her first i know she is only a wife but just ask her talk to her she might not be ready to do it yet or might of picked one out and just not showed up yet. I wuold just talk to her about it see how she feels.
2006-11-13 16:33:30 · answer #9 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I suggest you go to the place he is buried and ask them what next to do. Sorry for your loss.
2006-11-13 16:32:20 · answer #10 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋