2006-11-13 08:29:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
she has never done anything to make me doubt her . and this is just me having a self confidence issue but i don't know how to deal with it
2006-11-13 08:42:47 · update #1
You could say walk away; but this woudln't quite be the answer. The good news is that you have identified that you don't know your reasoning but you are doing it. Therefore, my suspision leads me to believe that you have been let down by a family member or someone very close to you. First things first, seek a therapist these are people that have no conflict of interest but teach you how to deal with these types of issues. It will not get better eventually it will lead you to start acting on your beliefs. If you have it with this relationship you will find different reasons it is a trust issue or a lack of self confidence. Perhaps though right now having a relationship at this time really is not a good idea until you seek help for yourself. It really is true as the saying goes, you can not love somebody until you love yourself. This doesn't make you abnormal by no means as there are many people out there that suffer this. However this makes you a step above the rest as you realize and want to do something about it.
Good luck to you!
2006-11-13 09:05:46 · answer #1 · answered by pattiof 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Has your partner given you any reason not to trust him? Or are you having a lack of confidence issue? If it has to do with something he's done in the past, and you're not sure you can trust him, it's probably best to end the relationship. If you're just feeling insecure about the relationship, you need to talk to someone about it, and perhaps go a step further and boost your self-confidence. Jealousy and paranoia can destroy a relationship if it's unfounded. But if you feel you can't trust this person, it's better to find someone you can. Good luck!
2006-11-13 08:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad as I feel the same sometimes. I have been cheated on in the past, have dated too many players, etc. so realistically, I think I'm overly sensitive but I have also had valid red flags in the relationship that I am in. It's a horrible feeling I know & I try my best to give my BF the benefit of the doubt however I cannot deny certain things that have happened that indicate he would like to be having his cake & eating it too. Worst part is that he was married to an attorney for 11 yrs. & has that knack for telling only what needs to be told, word & mind games, etc. as attorneys are sooo good at. Good Luck & I wish I had a better answer for you!
2006-11-13 09:20:22 · answer #3 · answered by COblonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on saying and doing this:
I chose not to be jealous or paranoid about my relationship.
It is a choice, so why put yourself through h*ll without reason.
Give yourself a break, and chose not to be that way..
It's hard to do at first but after a while ...and truly choosing not to be that way, it will work for you.
2006-11-13 09:26:44 · answer #4 · answered by gemma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know im having the same problem
2006-11-13 08:36:37 · answer #5 · answered by ugly_acid_tales 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just have good makeup sex. its like going to confession, except with sex
2006-11-13 08:42:04 · answer #6 · answered by p3t3x794 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋