When my friends get b/f's, they tlk bout kissing right away and doin things (touching) that im not comfortable with. They also think of a long relationship as 6 weeks. i dont wanna get in a fast-movin relationship if its gonna end that quickly, but when people ask me how many guys i've been with, im embaressed to say one. What do i do???????
2006-11-13 08:14:45 · 23 answers · asked by *KK* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DO whatever you are comfortable with and nothing more. Never do anything with a guy just cause he (or your friends) say everyone is doing it. Thats not a good reason.
Stick to your comfort zone.
2006-11-13 08:16:58 · answer #1 · answered by Rum_Punch_Girlie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friends are exactly the same, but have gone further that touching! I haven't been with many guys before either because there arn't a lot of guys who are interested in a relationship consisting of more than the physical aspect. I'm not waiting for the PERFECT guy to come along, but I don't want the kind of shallow relationships my friends have either. Sometimes I get kind of depressed about it, but in the end it's better having no one than 2 or 3 different guys a month, isn't it? I don't think there's anything you can do about it. You just have to decide what matters most - what everyone thinks or what you value.
2006-11-13 08:22:34 · answer #2 · answered by weresheepie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stick with your principles and comfort level here. You may feel a bit left out right now, but the fact that you prefer a slower-moving, longer-lasting relationship will set you apart from these flighty girls in the long run. Besides, they will get the jerks and you (who can probably spot a jerk faster than them) will get good boyfriends, in your own time. And people don't need to know how many guys you've been with. That's YOUR business. Not everyone is into broadcasting all the details anyway.
2006-11-13 08:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by Zenchick 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I assume you are still a teenager, a young teenager to be exact..
probably not even 16..
It sounds like you need new friends. You should not be worried about kising and touching with boys, and definitly not worried about having sex.
Sex does not give you status or priveledges..
trust me, their sexual exploits do not make them "cool" or "popular".
6 weeks is not even the start of a real relationship!!!!
Think about yourself and your pride, find a group of friends to "hang with" that respect themselves..
and always remember enjoy being young, if you push yourself to grow up too soon, you will miss alot of good memories that you can never ever go back to..
2006-11-13 08:21:14 · answer #4 · answered by The Chesire Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depens on who asks. if its ur buds they should understand if u wana have a relashionship ur way. if they just want 2 c if ur a girl thats a slut then they r just weird and they need 2 get a life. if people who arent ur friends ask its non of ther bisnes. try 2 find the rite guy or u might end up like those peeps who belive in a long relasionship as 6 weeks. good luk findin a guy! ;)
2006-11-15 08:12:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offense, but your friends are absolute wh0res. ignore the h.ell out of them and remember that guys will respect you much more if you don't *do things* with them immediately...make it clear to guys that you're not liek those other girls and that if they want to be with you, they have to be prepared for an actual relationship, not just a hookup.
other than that, if you're not going to dump your friends, i don't know that there's a lot that you can do but ignore them and remember that your way will be a lot better in the long run. not knowing you or the guy, i think that your one relationship, however well or badly it might have ended, was probably more satisfying at some point at least than any of theirs are or have been.
don't worry. there are guys out there who respect you and like you for your personality and not your sluttiness. most of them are just really shy. if you really want a relationship...don't hang out with sluts! they scare decent guys off!
2006-11-13 08:21:03 · answer #6 · answered by fireflower413 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart you have the best attitude I have read all week so I will give you the best answer to tell your friends it is so simple and tells them nothing every time they ask say the same thing "ENOUGH"It is noone elses business really. Only you and I know the truth and I sure am telling them nothing .So use this word ENOUGH it can means once or a hundred times .Use it from now on goodluck smile and have a nice day...from john.
2006-11-13 08:26:59 · answer #7 · answered by john h 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't need to do anything. You just have to stay strong and be confident in who you are. But I know exactly what you mean. My friends date a lot but I want something more than just a weekend boyfriend so I take my time dating and finding the right guy and my friends know this. They respect that.
So you don't have to be embarassed at all and your friends will respect that you don't date that often if you aren't embarassed about it.
2006-11-13 08:18:53 · answer #8 · answered by pacific_crush 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl--you rock! Stand up for girls who don't go out w/ touchy feely guys! If you don't want a relationship like that, you can always say no if a guy does something perverted. And go out with good guys, there are very few, so it's okay that you've only been in one relationship.
2006-11-13 08:19:00 · answer #9 · answered by gobananas732 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being with just one guy...... It's ok to want a long and/or serious relationship instead of datin around, if you're not comfortable with that......Some people enjoy just playin the field and some don't...... Just be honest with others and yourself and do what makes u feel comfortable.......
2006-11-13 08:21:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋