Well, my girlfriend wants me to go to her parents house for Thanksgiving and I am really scared that they will reject me. I am stable on my meds and think I pass as normal dispite my bipolar. But the last episode was so scary, I got kind of like Billy in Six Feet Under when he is off his meds. I sometimes wonder if it is fair to bring another person into my world because even though I am ok now, I know its just a matter of time before I mess up again. But I love her so much. I just don't think its fair to saddle her with somebody who is mentally ill. I am so confused and scared.
2006-11-13 08:00:05 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh sweetie just because you have a serious medical problems that causes lapses in judgement does not make you unlovable. If she has the patience to deal with episodes then appreciate her and love her that much more when you are capable of it. Keep taking the meds and educate her about bipolar so she knows what to look for when the meds start having problems working so that she can let you know it is time for the doctor to see you. Working with her and educating her about this major problem can ultimately make your life so much better and worth living. Don't give her up and think for a second that because other people have a negative opinion of someone with bipolar that you should give her up. You have a chance at a wonderful life dispite what cards life has dealt you.
Things that could happen if you leave her. She gets into a relationship with a non-bipolar person that beats her, or cheats on her, or doesn't hold a job and makes her hold two jobs to support him and their children, or all of the above. She could end up worse for wear with someone else that is not bipolar. If she loves you just love her back. Again I can not say enough how important it is to educate not only yourself about bipolar but her too. She needs to know what it is about and how to help you control it. It is a very important part of who you are and that is nothing to be ashamed of because it is something you can not help. As for the parents just show them you love and respect their daughter and will do your very best to be good to her. Time will show them you deserve their daughter.
2006-11-13 08:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by Janet J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it easy on yourself!! Just because you are bipolar doesn't mean you can't live a normal life! I am also bipolar, I was diagnosed about 4 years ago. As long as you stay medicated you should be fine. I went off my meds one time and I will never do it again. I became pretty crazy too. As long as your girlfriend understands your disorder that will make it easier on you as a couple because she will be able to spot warning signs of an episode. It helps to have someone in your life that can help you manage bipolar. I think you are really hard on yourself--you have an illness, you know what you have to do about it,so just do it. I think everything will be fine. Good Luck!
2006-11-13 09:35:44 · answer #2 · answered by angelofdreams19881 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have severe depression and was afraid of the same thing-having someone 'stuck' with me. Well-It isn't that big of deal if love is involved. My now husband loves me enough to get past my episodes. I have complete confidence that you can make it through Thanksgiving as 'normal'. Does your gf know you are bipolar? It may help if she just gives her parents the heads up if you think something will happen. It is better to know what is going on and understand you are not in control than jump to the assumption you are a psycho who is going to hurt their daughter. Which presumably is not so since you love her.
2006-11-13 08:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by Alison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of people with serious diseases who find love. You deserve to love and be loved. And who is to say that she will not contract a serious disease? If you love one another, don't end the relationship. What matters is the way you two feel about one another. Enlist your girlfriend's help in reminding you when to take your meds. And go relax and have a nice Thanksgiving. I'll bet you have many endearing qualities.
2006-11-13 08:09:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow--kudos to you for thinking of the well-being of your girlfriend. What a gentleman---and gentlemen are hard to come by nowadays! So, if you are on meds, then you have a psychiatrist, right? Why not discuss this issue with him/her? Also, if you guys are religious, maybe with a minister or priest--and/or someone whom you both trust and know? They're pretty good about what ends up being problematic long term in relationships b/c so many people in relationships turn to them!
Good luck! I hope everything works out to your true and complete happiness! God bless!
2006-11-13 08:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by Mary's Daughter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey , don't be scared you need to just make sure you take your med before you go & dont worry about be rejected you just might find out they can understand you better than you think give it a try & see if you love her then at least do that much for her .. im with a man that i thought i wasn't smart enough for him know what his mother told me do you love him I said yeah mom i do then she said good welcome to my family so put your mind to rest & have a wonderful thanksgiven ...
from the Smith family
2006-11-13 08:07:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you like this girl then just make sure to take your meds prior to meeting and having Thanksgiving dinner with her folks. Sounds like you may not always stay on top of taking your meds so you need to be more aware of the priority that they must take in your life. It also sounds as if you are quite aware of the dangers of not taking your medication as directed so please do yourself and your girlfriend a favor and continue as prescribed. Good luck to you.
2006-11-13 08:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No babes I wouldn't worry about ti so much. I'm sure she's in love with you or on her way to. And she must really want you to be a part of her family's thanksgiving for her to ask you. So I would just explain to her how your feeling and it will make a million times better because she will tell you how much she cares for you and how badly she wants you there. Good Luck!
2006-11-13 08:03:46 · answer #8 · answered by Stef 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being aware is the best thing going for you. You won't have an episode if you stay on your meds. Get your levels in your blood tested REGULARLY to make sure you are where you're sopposed to be and you'll be fine. You don't have to announce to them straightway that you're bi-polar.
BTW, they will, once they know, have an awful lot of respect for you for taking your mental health seriously.
2006-11-13 08:05:44 · answer #9 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your girlfriend really likes you (meeting the parents at Thanksgiving is a good sign), she doesn' t care what kind of medical problems you have. Just be yourself and take care of yourself too. Why would the parents reject you? If your girlfriend thinks you're the one, shouldn't that be good enough for them too?
2006-11-13 08:04:49 · answer #10 · answered by gobananas732 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋