Recently I had sex with the man I have fancied for a long time. He is almost 50, I am 26. He is successful, good looking and great in bed. Kind of "macho-player " image.
We had a fantastic night together, and than I left home to sleep. He called me the next morning inviting me to go out with his friends. I told him I can't and that I will see him next week.He texted me again on Sunday saying "When will I see you ?" and I responded " Maybe not this week, but the week after this. I need to reflect." He responded by sms, rather sarcastically " Try looking at the miror...:-) See you soon." I haven't heard from him since.
You see , I was playing hard to get, but now I feel I have being stupid pushing away guy whom I really like.
But than, why he never bovered calling me in the 5 days that passed since we had sex?
He told me he thinks we have special chemistry and he has serious intentions...
Am I right to expect more than just a couple of texts? Am I right to demand more attention?
2006-11-13 07:59:19 · 21 answers · asked by Rita B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's what you get for playing games. You can still salvage something here but try being honest and direct with him instead of playing hard to get. You are not entitled to anything including text messages. If you weren't playing around you could be having sex with him right now instead of asking questions on the internet.
2006-11-13 08:03:10 · answer #1 · answered by Jason S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"But than, why he never bovered calling me in the 5 days that passed since we had sex?"
You already said he called you to invite you out the next morning!
If you are telling him maybe later, maybe another time, I need time and all these things, of course he's gonna stop texting and calling you, he'll be getting on with your life and leaving you to think about what it is you want.
If you want him, go get him. He obviously wants you and has good intentions, so go get it! Before its too late and he gives up waiting.
2006-11-13 08:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by ashypoo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he cared for you in a way more than a nice shag he'd be persistant. Especially at that age, it isn't every day a guy of almost half a century get to go out with an attractive young girl unless he's filthy stinking rich. If he can't be bothered to get back to you you haven't losyt anything except further hurt.
2006-11-13 11:34:45 · answer #3 · answered by Bealzebub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that by playing hard to get, you made yourself out to be just that. Perhaps he truly was interested, but you pushed him away. Those tricks might work okay in high school, but in real life, you need to put your pride away, and maintain contact. Who knows--something might happen, or maybe not. But by playing the oldest adolescent game, you might have gone too far. Try contacting him--it might be okay. Good luck, and, no, you're not wrong to demand more attention. Just play it by ear, and for God's sake, don't play any more games.
2006-11-13 08:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by bellegurl17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he was lucky, he had such a young lady to be with. It sounds like your subconcious was telling you that you weren't really interested because you pushed him away. So think about what it was that kept you at a distance. Could it be that you aren't ready to settle down or is it the age or maybe something else. I don't know if he is still interested but if he is who you want then call him and tell him. If he doesn't chace you again, it is his loss. You probably won't have any problems finding someone else.
2006-11-13 08:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is a MAN not a boy. You are to busy playing high school games that I'm sure he has moved on or is tired of them and just stopped calling/texting you.
2006-11-13 08:04:14 · answer #6 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He invited you to his friends the next day which you didn't go to, then you tell him you'll see him the next weekend - and he calls you on the Sunday and you reject him with the 'Reflection' thing !!!
I think you blew it Rita. There's the fun of the chase but you'd already put out to him so He was obviously interested...
2006-11-13 08:06:04 · answer #7 · answered by mark leshark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing you "chased" him into bed rather than him doing all the chasing.
He thinks you've blown him out, and if he's not the chasing type you'll have to call him.
Don't play games with blokes, we're not bright enough and you girls keep changing the rules!
2006-11-13 08:04:52 · answer #8 · answered by phooey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youv'e discovered the law of nature - push a man away too often and he'll not bother coming back ! Tuff.
2006-11-13 08:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by Timbo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not a boy, he is mature enough to know what he wants. Stop playing head games with him. Have fun call him!
2006-11-13 08:03:52 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋