My Bf and I have been together for almost a year... last week my Dad came here from on of town to visit.. expecting to see/meet my Bf and my Bf ditched .. He left right before my dad got there and didn't come back.. So he never met my father.. Now Thanksgiving is coming and he wants me to meet his Mother! O I sooo don't look forward to being in the ocward does she like me or hate me self consciousfeeling all day.. So.. I told him I dont' want to go to his peoples how for thanksgiving, because he dissed my dad.. so now we are even.. Is that wrong? that i dont want to meet his Mother.. Or should i go anyway dispite what has happend?
2006-11-13 07:51:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your bf should not have flaked out but if you were set on meeting his mother before all this go ahead and do it he should not have flaked but maybe if you are the better person then he will want to meet your dad but if he is still flaking on you maybe you should rethink the status of your relationship maybe your not as serious as you think you are.
2006-11-14 02:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by ♥SaLz♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you should ask yourself-are you in this relationship long-term? If you don't see you self with him for a long time (for example, marriage), it would be unnecessary to meet the parents. If you want to be with him and love him than I strongly suggest starting on the right foot and going. It is scary, yes, I discovered that last year-but I also learned that the unknown can turn out to be pretty fun.
Now him ditching on meeting your Dad is an entirely different issue that needs to be addressed. Why did he ditch-was it on purpose? Did he know your dad was coming? Ask him and find out why he would do that and explain that if he doesn't want to meet your family why should you be interested in meeting his? What is wrong with your family that is right with his? Every family is different, my man's family is on the opposite side of the spectrum from mine, but we manage to get along. You can get used to different.
Good Luck and I hope that helped!
2006-11-13 16:01:53 · answer #2 · answered by Alison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is fair that your bf ditched out on your Dad, but it is quite childish to pull the "now we're fair" game. I know it is awkward meeting the parents, but if he really wants you there & you were willing to go before the situation with your Dad came up, you should still go.
2006-11-13 16:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by pekmsluv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's messed up how he ditched you like that. it's perfectly legal to refuse to go since he flaked on your dad last time...BUT if you go and meet his mother, you'll have something to make him feel bad with...you can rub it in afterwards too ^^
but i know meeting the mom can be nerve-racking. its simple really, just smile a lot, remember common courtesy, and give lots of compliments about the house, cooking, etc.
good luck^^
2006-11-13 16:07:43 · answer #4 · answered by mr E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a year of being together, meeting the parents shouldnt be a big deal, if you are both trippen over it maybe you should re think how serious you are.
2006-11-13 15:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well two wrongs dont make it right. Go meet his mom be the better person dont be scared parents are people too. Just remember to be polite.
2006-11-13 15:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by Kayla P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like neither of you are "ready" to meet each other's parents. since he backed out of meeting your dad, he should understand how you feel..
you need to decide why you are both afraid to mee the parents.. it shouldn't be that big of an issue.
2006-11-13 15:56:17 · answer #7 · answered by Jeff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need to just break up. He dissed your dad because he doesn't see a future with you.
2006-11-13 15:56:48 · answer #8 · answered by jim_deets 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should meet her. You might like her. If you don't do it now, then you may never get the chance again. Don't get even, show your boyfriend your're better than that.
2006-11-13 15:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when i was dating and had gfs i would set it up to the point that we could visit both families
2006-11-13 15:54:14 · answer #10 · answered by rives 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋