I have suffered from depression for many years....I am on antidepressants...?

Question

and am more or les stable, but not happy about my life either...soon I´ll be 32 and am I thinking about having a baby ..(I am married).maybe that will make me feel that my life has a purpose, but what if I still feel unhappy??? I don´t want my children to have a depressed mother, that seems very unfair to me..what do you think??thank you for your answers....

I meant a depressed mum is unfair for the KIDS, I guess I didn´t express myself well...
I should mention that I am a nursery teacher, absolutely love them and have a lot of patience...in fact the reason I am depressed is tthat I can´t find a job a a nursery teacher, because I moved to another country and here everything is different...

Answer 1

I can understand your desire to have a baby, but a couple things bother me. First or all, some women suffer from post-partum depression, which in your case would be much worse since you already are depressed. Secondly, the medication you're taking for this condition might be discontinued during pregnancy because of possible harm it could cause to the growing fetus, and if the medication is stopped, what will that do for your depression, except to make it worse. Honestly, dear, I'm not trying to discourage you, but you should know the consequences you might face.

Lots of women think that having a baby is a cure-all for their ills, even those who have a marriage that's less than satisfactory. However, it isn't fair to bring a baby into the world for that purpose. There is a lot of responsibility and commitment that goes hand in hand with motherhood. My suggestion would be to have a complete psychological workup to determine whether pregnancy would be possible in your situation. Only a professional could advise you in this case. Maybe there are some safer drugs that can be taken, or other types of therapy that do not involve drugs at all. A baby should be a blessing, and not a burden to an already troubled psyche. At least get some counseling, if nothing else.

On the other hand, it is possible that the tables will turn, and that having a baby will bring greater happiness to you, while not exactly solving all your problems. But maybe you can learn to deal more effectively with the things that are making you depressed. So please get some professional help before you consider this big step, and also talk it over with your husband and see what he thinks about it, since it will also be a lifelong comittment for him too. Good luck and God bless!

Answer 2

You are probably feeling a hormonal clock ticking in addition to dealing with depression. A baby is NOT going to help with the depression. There WILL be sleepless nights, which never helps with depression, and they almost NEVER say thank you.

I agree with you that your life needs a purpose, but there are many other ways to achieve this feeling. Community service comes to mind right away, but it's certainly not the only thing. Nature puts that procreate drive in us but that does not mean we have to answer it if our circumstances are not right.

Depression, even medicated, can become worse after the birth of a child, lasting years, and you'll drive yourself nuts (no pun intended) wondering why you don't feel the way you thought you SHOULD feel.

It's a difficult decision to make and one that only you and your husband SHOULD make together. Personally, I would not, but then I've been there, done that and know what happened with me.

Good Luck.

Answer 3

I had been identified with medical melancholy throughout the beyond yr. Like you, I quite did not desire to take antidepressants. But when you consider that my melancholy used to be a outcomes of a scarcity of the mind chemical Seratonin, no quantity of confident pondering or counselling might have made any change. You would not endorse a diabetic to have counselling for his or her diabetes! I used to be prescribed Fuoxetine (Prozac) and can't inform you how so much larger I suppose now. I desire I had noticeable my health care provider approximately this decades in the past. Perhaps you want a blend of counselling and drug remedy in your precise sort of melancholy - handiest your health care provider can investigate the proper therapy for you. PLEASE recollect utilizing antidepressants......they've became my existence round! Good success........Melanie :o) xxxx PS Susan C - you will have to be utterly ashamed of your bloodless-hearted, nasty and ignorant perspective. Let's simply wish that you simply by no means have the misfortune to endure from a intellectual health problem.

Answer 4

Do not have a child. You have no idea how tough it is to be a parent. As wonderful as they are, they can drive you to the edge. You are not able to take on such a huge responsibility. Forget about what is fair to YOU. Having a child is about the child. Once you have a child, it is NEVER about YOU again. Find another way to get out of the depression, child-rearing will not do it.

Answer 5

Having a child may make you feel more purposeful but the child can cause you to be more stressed than you alright are. You must debate which is more important to you...feeling purposeful or feeling less stressed?

Answer 6

Sort yourself out before having a baby. Things can become much worse with a baby's demands. You are young enough to wait a while.

Answer 7

Perhaps your doctor can change your anti-depressant to another one. Personally, Effexor works well for my own depression. I have found that getting regular exercise helps to lessen my depression.

Answer 8

try researching and experimenting with other drugs, presription of course and under dr.s care. try some natural cure's. i personally smoke pot for mine and it helps me... just moved to new state and am trying for medicinl permit. hope this lil bit helps.

Answer 9

Please only have children if you truly want them, not just to see if they make you feel better about your life it isn't their job, responsibility or purpose.

Answer 10

do whatever you feel is right