Swinger Site?

Question

i was sitting next to my boyfriend watching tv as he was checking his mail and i couldnt help but notice there was a generated email from a sex site that had a list of girls matching his profile with nastly lude pitcures! I asked him why the hell he was getting that kind of male - he denied knowing anything about it and said it must be junk and deleted it! - i made him reopen it just to have a curious look what these websites were about. I was in shock when i saw it was addressed to his nickname and questioned it futher going into the website there had been a profile made and everything describing his character, which was quite accurate! and a title description of "no strings attached" - he denied it all and said it must be a joke one of his mates was playing on him - and asked why i wouldnt see it as funny? i was quite upset and he got angry at me and accused me of not believing him, he shouted at me and slammed the door on his way out! I didnt speak for him for 2days till he called

Answer 1

The site is called Adult Friend Finder, and it was not a joke. Your boyfriend is looking for some action on the side, and there's nothing funny about that. Break up with him and find a man who will be honest with you. I'm sorry this happened to you. You might want to try Adult Friend Finder yourself and find a man who will not only give you the time of your life but be completely honest with you. My wife and I have had a lot of fun with it, and the membership fees are nominal. That would be a really great way to get back at his sorry *** because eventually he would see your profile on there and realize you are giving him a taste of his own medicine. Good luck. Sorry!

Answer 2

When someone is telling the truth they do not get mad or try to make excuses after being proded a bit.

He is clearly lying to you. Number 1 because his first excuse was that the emails were junk mail which escalted into it being a joke from his buddies

and Number 2, guilty people do not storm off.

He is a gulity and lying to you.

Get rid of him, who knows what he lies about and who knows what he could give you with a lifestyle like his(std, HPV, aids!).

Sorry this happned to you girl, there are better men out there.

Answer 3

Classic. Yeah, he's using the old duck & dodge routine. He gets angry at you to distract you from the real issue: he got caught with his pants around his damned ankles! "Ignore the man behind the curtain!" If I were you, I wouldn't be alarmed that he's still sexually interested in other people. That's normal, whether anyone wants to admit it or not. What would concern me, however, and would be the biggest obstacle in your relatinship, is the lack of trust, lack of emotional intimacy, and SERIOUS lack of honesty between you. His behaviour shows much immaturity on his part throughout the scenario, and if it were me, I'd be saying that I'm too old for that kind of BS. Life just keeps getting shorter, eh?

Answer 4

Could actually be a 50/50. If he checked out one (even a long time ago) they are set up to automatically send these unrequested, inviting emails to you to get you to sign up with a different site. My suggestion is have him open a couple more, check out the location, (if it is non-specific, ie: somewhere Calif), let it go. If it reads very generic, let it go. Hell, most all men that I know have surfed a site or two. I'm not saying he not a paying member of one, but I have been on the receiving end of the "unwanted" emails.

Answer 5

He's lying. In no way could one of his friends sign him up since most sites are pay (so they'd have to have his credit card number) and when registering you have to confirm your email (which means they'd have to have access to his email to respond to the system generated mail). He's trying to cheat.

Unfortunately, he fits the profile of so many "single" guys on swingers sites trying to make it with couples because they think swingers are all easy and it's an easy way to get some "no-strings" sex. Most are sorely mistaken when they don't get any responses from couples (most swingers won't play with cheaters) and many of the "single" women on these sites are made-up profiles by the site administrators to attract men like your boyfriend.

Him getting that angry just verifies it since he's only angry because he was caught. He's trying to turn the situation around on you and make it your fault that you caught him and "don't trust him". Don't let him do that.

Answer 6

He's lying.

It's likely that he joined those sites and filled out those profiles - he's just trying to explain it away as "spam" when he gets a bunch of return emails - actual spam!

Even the best spam-bots can't generate a profile on each individual person; he's just trying to deflect the fact that you caught him trolling for other women online. He got angry and left because that's one way to turn the argument back on you and make the fight more about you being paranoid, instead of about him being caught.

Answer 7

He needs to be open and honest with you. Confront him again about the situation. Don't just let him lie his way out of it!

Answer 8

sorry to tell you this but he is out there swinging with out you and getting who knows what from who knows who. Dump him and run to the nearest doctor for tests.

Answer 9

if he wasn't lying he wouldn't have gotten all pit off and left and waited to call for 2 days... he's hiding something, actions speak louder than words, and his actions all equal: GUILTY!!! you don't need him my friend, you don't need him!

Answer 10

Dump his lying ***. I know its hard but open your eyes...you already know whats going on.