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I have 2 daughters that dont live with me & i havent seen them in years, one will be 18 in two years & the other 17 in two years should i go looking for them or just let them be & not disturb them ... I lost them at the age of 2 - 3 because of my husband beating me & me being in the hospital for 3 months cause of a gun shot to my Chest ... im really nervious about talking or asking this but im didn't understand & IM a little slow with my spelling & every thing , i have a disable but i do my best .. so if there is any miss spelled words for give me

Answer 1

You have every right to see your children, the problem may be what their father has told them about you over the years. I would suggest, making contact....... a letter maybe, just telling them that you love them and always have. If your comfortable with it, give them your address or phone number and tell them they can contact you anytime they want. And then let them decide if they want to have contact or not. It will be very difficult to do, I know, but that way they will know that you haven't forgotten them. Good Luck.

Answer 2

All I can say is that I have just been witness to a great man who was seperated from his kids for a long long time who was recently reunited with them, now that they are over 18. It's a beautiful thing and to me it kind of proves the old adage "If you love something set it free. If it returns to you it is yours for life. If it doesn't return it never was".

Only you know the specifics of your situation. If it would cause hardship on you or your girls to get back in their lives now, wait. If you are meant to enjoy this journey together, they will find their way to you. If not, you know that your role in their life was simply biological and you can at least be glad you were able to do that for them.

Peace!

Answer 3

i think that i would try to contact them and explain why you have not been there. you have no idea what has been told to them. but make sure that you have proof of the time frame that you were shot because they may ask for it. if they do want to sit down with you don't sit and point the finger at any one. they just want to know your part in all of this, not to hear you blame someone else. good luck go find your girls.

Answer 4

You should try to find them, even if they dont want to see you right now, they will remember when they get older that you tried to find them and that you care.
It would be great to know they are doing ok for your own peace of mind.
I dont know where you live or what services are available to you but it would be better if you asked an agency that deals with family reconciliation to help you contact them.
Good luck

Answer 5

I see nothing wrong with you getting in touch with your daughters. that way they could make the choice if they wanted to go forward with it or not but at least you had reached out to them there father might have told them things over the years that might make them not want to see you I wish you the very best in finding them good luck

Answer 6

If you really want to reconnect with your children, then by all means do so. Your children would most likely want to get to know their biological mother. If they are interested in knowing the real reason you werent around to raise them, then be frank and honest with them. Have your paperwork or pictures available. At this age, they are old enough to understand why you couldnt stay.

good luck!

Answer 7

it was not your fault they were not in your life. if you do decide to find them tell them what happened. I think they might be old enough for you to talk to them and for them to understand. I hope i helped
Best of luck

Answer 8

Honey, honestly you've gone too long before considering talking about this. They're your kids. You miss them... right? Find them.

Answer 9

Find them. I am very sorry. i hope i can help