I'm in love with a wonderful man, but to make the relationship work I will have to move to the town where he owns a business. This is far away from my family and friends and it will be hard to get a job in what I have my master's degree in....I feel like if I move away from everything I might not be happy....but I don't want to lose him....
2006-11-13 07:42:31 · 21 answers · asked by josie775 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand your feelings EXACTLY. I am going to ask you something that I wish someone would have asked me before I threw caution to the wind just to be with him in the "name of love." Ask yourself," Would he APPRECIATE the sacrifice that you are WILLING to give just for him?" And even further yet, "Would he even NOTICE that he would be your ONLY reason to change from the stability you now have in your life in exchange for a life of uncertainty?" Often times, we, as women to desire to show love to our mates unconditionally and with NO LIMITS because we think and hope that our mates will do the same when "the time comes." But sadly, we are often disappointed and heartbroken when we see that our dreams don't come true in "reality." Then we are left alone, disillusioned and jaded about love. I am not saying that this man may not be your "soul mate" but before you do all of the giving, make sure that "YOU ARE HIS." (from his point of view-not yours.) Hope this helps.
2006-11-13 07:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How far is it? Have you researched the area for work? Maybe you can do the search from your current home, and stay there until a job comes up. Is he willing to wait? If not, is he willing to care for you until you can find a job? As far as the family and friends....I think that they should not be the reason you don't move there. They can visit, vise versa. True love is hard to find. If you got it, then do what you can to keep it with out compromising your dreams. I know this is hard but maybe a little research will land you a position in his area. Just take some more time before you jump into the decision.
2006-11-13 07:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a question only you can answer.
How important is having the "man of your dreams?" What's so special about this guy? You have a master's and you don't know how to deal with distance? Did you go to school in your family's basement?
How do you expect any of us to answer this question for you? At best you will receive a bunch of "Don't leave your homies for some dude!" or "Girl, if you gots to gets yo'self sum uh dat, den yo fam will know fo sho that u won't be back!"
The problem here is the lack of true understanding of what love is. Far too many people run around saying they are in love when they don't know what the h3ll they are talking about. Then on the other extreme you have idiots saying that if you are truely in love, it will all work out. Sure if you don't mind missing out on opportunities your entire life just to end up getting screwed over by some other person who promises not to. Romantic relationships are the most fickle things that people enter into, mostly because they get all bent out of shape when anyone requires them to sign a contract about the situation.
2006-11-13 07:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by letum_ante_dedecus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am with you girl! I just left Tennessee to come to New Orleans with my boyfriend who owns a business here. It is hard because I am very close to my family and friends. I have only been here about a month. I am not going to lie, it is hard. I would not be able to handle it with out email and cell phone to contact them. I also get to travel home 2 weekends out of the month. ( i hope).
I just really love this guy and I know i have been with really bad guys in the past. I am willing to take this chance because I am in love. At night when we are home together I forget everything and I am happy! We talk about everything and I know how much he cares for me. If you are truly in love and you are happy being alone with him, and he makes you laugh and shows you he can take care of you, Its worth the chance. Like my man tells me (and I'm 27) We all have to grow up one day and make our own family. I say give it a try. You can always go back if it does not work out. Just make sure to stay in touch with everyone back home. I am learning that there is more out there than my little home town of Maryville I love so much!!
2006-11-13 07:55:25 · answer #4 · answered by Me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about how much you are willing to sacrifice. It's the actual willingness to sacrifice that counts. You can sacrifice your entire life to the relationship, but if that makes you miserable, it will eventually catch up and damage the relationship. However, being in a good relationship means you are willing and even happy to sacrifice somethings for the other person. It might not even be thought of as a sacrifice, but sharing.
2006-11-13 07:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by betafish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first how long have you been together? second is that your only option? third will this benefit the both of you? have either of you checked to see if its best for the both of you? Do you love him enough to let him leave without you knowing its whats best for him and not you? Does he love you enough to let you stay knowing it might not be best for you? How much have you really looked into getting a job? If he owns a company can't you work for him untill you get on your feet? Do the two of you have a place to live? Are the two of you even considering getting married someday in the future? How old are the two of you??
2006-11-13 07:48:20 · answer #6 · answered by Lek 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine that you're putting too a lot emphasis on the water ingredient. I mean, except you're a specialist surfer or diver then there extremely isn't sufficient of a reason that you'll make one of those fuss over it in my opinion. There are 1000's of different issues that you adult adult males can do mutually to boot, flow to the coastline or have a romantic nighttime in a warm bathtub. not ALL issues contain water. i'm confident there are some issues that she does/participates in with you that she doesn't inevitably love doing yet does besides (or pretends to love) so that you adult adult males can savour something mutually and vise verse. purely.. imagine about the large image and give up focusing a lot on the water stuff.
2016-11-29 02:44:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you married? If not, then No. If he wants to put a ring on your finger, combine incomes and take care of you, then make the sacrifice.
For a boyfriend, even if you love him, you have to do what's best for you. You're still an 'independant' and until you're a "we", your job is only to think about "You".
2006-11-13 07:45:37 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a great question.......one that I also ask. Unfortunately, I don't have an easy answer to it. In my experience, it almost seems like I'm forced to pick either career or love and am not allowed to have both even though I want to. If you find a good answer to make this work, please share it.
2006-11-13 07:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by Eastern US Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he willing to sacrifice anything for you? You seriously need to talk about it. If you two love each other, the both of you should be making sacrifices to keep your love strong. It will die if you sacrifice everything and make yourself miserable just to be with him.
2006-11-13 07:45:11 · answer #10 · answered by quatrapiller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋