My mom and some family friends decided to do Thanksgiving together. We're suppose to go to their house because one of them is working that day and so they can't come over. However we normally invite my aunt over on Thanksgiving. She's single and has nobody to spend it with but us. She doesn't want to come with us because she doesn't know the people. No matter what I say she refuses to come, she says she's fine with us going but I feel bad. I think deep down she might be hurt and is just acting OK about it. My mom and I have bickered about it. I think it's horrible my mom is choosing friends over family. She says the friends have nobody to spend Thanksgiving with either. Which isn't the same thing since they have each other and my aunt has nobody else. What to do?
2006-11-13 07:40:49 · 11 answers · asked by Gypsy Cat 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i guess you could choose to go to your aunts and not go with your mother. sure you may not have a big thanksgiving dinner but the two of you could come up with something. i think that even if you ended up eating soup and a sandwich together that would be great. i think you would both like that. so, tell your mom that you are going to spend it with your aunt.
2006-11-13 08:56:21 · answer #1 · answered by here to help 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Aunt how VERY important it is for her to be with you on Thanksgiving. Really push her to go, tell her you will only go if she goes ;)
I think once she gets there, she will have a great time and maybe make some new friends too.
She may just feel she will be in the way...Tell her she WILL know someone there.. you and your Mom.
Also, would it be possible for your Mom's friend to personally call and invite your Aunt over? That might make her feel a little better about going..
Good luck!!
2006-11-13 08:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by LittleBitOfSugar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I personally do not think there is anything wrong with going over to some friends house for Thanksgiving. I would just tell you aunt that this is a great time for her to meet some new people. You never know who might be there. Tell her that she can ride with you so she will feel more comfortable. I would just tell my aunt that it meant alot to me for her to come. I think she will end up coming with you. Just make sure you hang with her so she doesn't feel left out. Who knows, she might not be single after this Thanksgiving.
2006-11-13 07:45:29 · answer #3 · answered by GreeneyedCowgirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you have a small dinner at home or even a thanksgiving day lunch at your house, then go over to the friends house for dinner. This way you can be with your aunt and your mom's friends. Instead of a huge turkey just have turkey breasts and some sides.
2006-11-13 07:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 05:48:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of going with your mom, rally up as many people that you know (and your aunt knows too) and have a nice little Thanksgiving dinner, so that she is included and you still get to have a good time.
2006-11-13 07:44:54 · answer #6 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to convience your mom that u think that family is more important then friends. because your family is gonna be there for u through thick and thin and your friends can back down and run any time. your mom has known your aunt her whole life and she got friends later on. family is forever while friends are found along the way.
2006-11-13 08:15:16 · answer #7 · answered by Kaitlin B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, i think if your mom wants to eat with her friends she ought to and then have a meal with all her family. what's wrong with doing both, we do. we have some friends that like us to come eat with them one day and then we have a family dinner with our folks on another day. It doesn't matter to me what day we get together, just as long as we spend time with each other. we seldom eat on Thanksgiving Day because everyone has family and we all need to share our time with others.
2006-11-13 07:47:42 · answer #8 · answered by Texas T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate when that happens!Isn't there any way they can come to your house instead?Then your aunt wouldn't feel like the guest.My mom used to be that way too-alone but wouldn't want to go to someone else's house cause she didn't like their gravy or some dumb thing.Good luck at coaxing her.
2006-11-13 07:48:14 · answer #9 · answered by Pesty Wadoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
drag your Aunt sounds like she needs to get out some
2006-11-13 07:43:39 · answer #10 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋