I have a friend who is 26 years old.She has a 50-year-old suitor who has never got married. She is about to agree his proposal but I'v told her to turn him down just on account of his age.
2006-11-13 07:34:36 · 35 answers · asked by Gorgeous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
They are not in love,the proposal is a traditional one!
2006-11-13 07:51:18 · update #1
IF SHE DOSENT ACCEPT. CAN I MEET HIM?
2006-11-13 08:35:23 · answer #1 · answered by sammi girls mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who married with a similar age difference. At first I was against it, but I have (over the years) seen how much they truly love each other. When she announced she was pregnant, I was shocked at first because of the huge difference. After the baby was born, I saw a couple so much in love that age really didn't seem to be a problem to anyone except for me. A good thing to do is to support your friend and be there for her. If you say anything against the relationship, it may drive a wedge between you and your friend. If you are with her through this time, she will treasure your friendship and trust. Remember honesty is the best policy. If she asks you for advice on marrying this person, then tell her the reasons why you are against it without sounding negative toward him in general. If she doesn't ask, don't offer your opinion on it. Being there with her and having a friendly hand in this is what she needs most. I've learned through experience that saying nothing to someone can say a mouthful about your opinion on things. I hope this helps!
2006-11-13 08:30:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can see big problems in about 10 - 15 years when the guy really goes downhill physically. But she probably want a sugar daddy who won't mess with her head, cheat on her, and will take care of her. She will worry about other obvious matters down the road but for the next 10 years she will be happy and secure. She is living in the here and now is all. In Asian culture there are many many men married to woman 20 -30 years younger. Ulterior motives? You betcha! But who cares as long as your happy and know whats what. I am sure this guy knows she isn't marrying until death do they part! Unless he dies before 65 that is! I bet a lot of woman are going to come on and say oh, that's not right or this and that....but the truth is a lot of 40's-50's woman are losing their husbands to younger woman and that is a trend that is growing. Also, lots of guys are going to Russia or Asia to find young, pretty, and very low maintenance GF'S or Wives...get used to it.
2006-11-13 07:49:07 · answer #3 · answered by Dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're prejudice. The 26 year old could be an old 26 and the 50 year old could be a young 50 years. I think you're jealous. I'm glad if they're happy. Age is only a state of mind.
2006-11-13 07:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by tobeyp2005 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to stay neutral in this situation. True love is not based on age. That's something society has placed. However, the big age difference does add additional stress and hardship.
A guy that old is more settled and will not have the energy for a 26 year old female. I am not talking sexually, I am talking about going to Great America, skating, Taste of Chicago, and common things that most couples like to do.
Secondly, is she prepared to "take care" of him if / when his health begins to fail. Will he be able to take care of her when her energy level reaches its peak.
Back to my beginning statement....true love can over come everything that I mentioned....but before true love is reached...these along with other situations needs to be addressed.
2006-11-13 07:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
turn down a proposal simply because of age??? If it's not a problem for her or him then why should it be an issue. While large age gaps can contribute to potential relationship issues, if those things have been discussed then age itself is no reason walk away. Two of my closest friends have a 19 year age gap and are VERY happy together.
2006-11-13 07:39:16 · answer #6 · answered by Spugsy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it is quite an age gap and if they're not in love then they might not want to make such a big commitment. Just go to her as a friend and let her know that you're concerned. If she doesn't change her mind after that then there's nothing else you can do.
2006-11-13 08:48:40 · answer #7 · answered by mssweets84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is truly happy. Let her be. Age isn't always an issue. Do you know the guy at all? Just on account of his age is not a good enough reason to be against their relationship. He might have alot to offer her. It all depends what his intentions are and what she wants out of the relationship. It's her decision. Be happy for her whatever it may be.
2006-11-13 07:39:32 · answer #8 · answered by sxyalmond 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, she has to decide for herself if this is best for her. She needs to keep in mind that the age difference will progressively get worse - when she's 35, he'll be nearly 60 already. But it's not up to you - be grateful this guy isn't asking you to marry him.
2006-11-13 07:41:16 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's silly! Biological age has so little to do with anything it should really be discounted. At 50, he's most likely stable, settled and knows how to treat a woman. If he's taken good care of himself, he could easily have many good years left.
She should make her decision based on their compatibility, not age.
2006-11-13 07:38:46 · answer #10 · answered by Wonderland 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What kind of a friend would tell her friend NOT to marry someone, if she was happy? Age doesnt really matter!! I would dump the friend, and marry the guy
2006-11-13 07:44:49 · answer #11 · answered by CJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋