How do I tell my alcoholic sister that there will not be any alcohol or tolerance for it at Thanksgiving this year. I'm hosting the family dinner this year and i don't want it to be turned into a three ring circus. But i don't want to hurt her feelings.
2006-11-13 07:29:42 · 10 answers · asked by 1973kimberly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's quite a dilemma dealing with an alcoholic. Unfortunately it's almost impossible to prevent an alcoholic from drinking. I tried the no drinking rule before, and my brother (who is now grateful in recovery) would enter my home already drunk. He would also have alcohol readily available in his car. The tough thing is that you can't worry about your sister's feelings, alcoholism is a family disease, affecting and hurting everyone. You have to have zero tolerance for this, and it's not easy, but if she needs to drink on Thanksgiving...then she doesn't come period. I'm sorry for the grief this must be causing you, I wish you peace for the holidays.
2006-11-13 14:20:22 · answer #1 · answered by Ceajae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont have any alcohol at your dinner. If you have some in your home, put it up and dont even let the conversation be broached about serving any to her. If she shows up under the influence then let her know that this is neither the time nor place for that and ask her to leave. Sometimes you have to be blunt about it. First though, before all that, just sit her down and talk to her or casually mention, during conversation that there wont be alcohol there. If she doesn't like it she need not come.
2006-11-13 07:49:24 · answer #2 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit your sister down and talk to her about her drinking and remind her how much her drinking is bothering you. Also, you need to put your foot down, because tell her that you won't tolerate any kind of behavior at the next family gathering or there will be some problems. Besides, so what if you hurt her feelings! Tell it like it is! Good luck to you!
2006-11-13 07:59:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to keep all the alcohol away from her. Tell her that you love her a lot but her behavior when she is drinking is disruptive to others. She is not allowed to drink and you are doing this in her best interest.
2006-11-13 07:35:33 · answer #4 · answered by sanj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her no alcohol before or during dinner. What she does after she leaves is up to her.
2006-11-13 07:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say, "By the way, there will be no alcohol allowed." You will hurt her feelings though, and expect her not to stay long.
2006-11-13 07:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just flat out say it. If it's at your house, then everyone should have to follow by the rules of your house. If it's unacceptable, then it's unacceptable. It will probably be hard to do this, but I think it's the best thing to do!
2006-11-13 07:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just wouldnt put alcohol out and explain to everyone at the party why there wont be any alcohol. im sure they would understand.
2006-11-13 07:36:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her it is your house and she has to respect that...you are sisters and she should know better.
...if that doesn't work, tell her somebody less will be incharge of bringing in alcohol so she doesn't have too, but really, there will be none.
2006-11-13 08:05:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to save the drinks for after she leaves
2006-11-13 07:33:14 · answer #10 · answered by i_like_bears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋