my boyfriend has had a couple of dreams about him and his ex having sex. He says it was a nightmare but i really feel insecure about it.
2006-11-13 07:26:57 · 16 answers · asked by hollybarry08 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't. Dreams are where you work out internal struggles and unwanted emotions. If he is boinking her in his dreams and you while he's awake, you're fine. The fact that he told you about it should go to say something about his character. If he was going to dump you so he could go back and have a fling with her, he wouldn't tell you about the dream.
However, if he is trying to destroy you emotionally so he can make you feel so insecure that you will do anything for him then maybe he's telling you for a different reason. It all depends on what kind of a guy he is, and you will know that better than any of us ever could.
When you post a question like this you have to take these answers with a grain of salt. I mean you got a guy up there telling you he's cheating and then advertising a dating website, can you see that dichotomy?
Trust your instincts. If you are insecure about it, why is that? Is it because you don't want him to dream about certain things. Well that's just silly, you aren't going to be able to control his dreams, as a matter of fact, HE can't even do that! If you are insecure because you don't feel like you can match up to his dreams then you either have a low self esteem or he has some really, really wild dreams.
Your insecurity must have been present long before you started dating this guy, that's evident in your inability to create a unique username...HollyBarry08. This is just a guy and that chick was just his ex. These relationships exist between every single person on earth. Before you can move forward with a relationship you have to leave the past behind you.
2006-11-13 07:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by letum_ante_dedecus 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I meant I think he wants to have sex with his ex. Dreams are a way for the subconscious to get a message to the conscious saying "hey, I'm in here, these are your feelings, thoughts, worries, etc). I know that when I'm really stressing over a situation, I ALWAYS dream about it.
I wouldn't be insecure about it however, because 1, he told you about the dreams and he didn't have to do that. And 2, desires are just desires until they turn into acts. If he's with you and he's telling you openly about this, I'd say let it go. If you start seeing emails, phone calls or text messages between the two, then start to worry. Otherwise, I'd say let it go. If you make a big deal of it, you may just fulfil his dreams and send him back into the arms of his ex.
Good Luck.
2006-11-13 08:25:21 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys dreaming about sex... a nightmare? He's lying to make you feel less upset about the fact that he's still thinking about his ex sexually. You know as well as I that it's no nightmare. However, that doesn't mean he's doing it on purpose. I've had dreams of my ex without thinking of her like that. I can't quite explain it myself.
2006-11-13 07:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by Masta Batang Dollar Billz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It means that he just dumm telling you about the dreams he has about his ex he just tell you on purpose so you can fell insecure just like you are tell him you had a dream about sleeping with a stranger and see how he likes it
2006-11-13 07:32:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-14 02:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by Spirita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably told you that to see what your reaction would be. If you had a dream about sleeping with an ex, would you tell him? Doubtful. Maybe he's testing you...
2006-11-13 07:29:25 · answer #6 · answered by tipper 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
would you tell him if you were having those kind of dreams about your ex???? my guess is, he's just playing you, mabye just testing how insecure are you...guyz do those strange things. why?? i don't know
2006-11-13 07:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by angelic_234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try some different things when having sex.Make him feel like he`s on top of things(you know what I mean).
2006-11-13 07:36:48 · answer #8 · answered by Step 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means you still likes him and maybe you needs to talk to him and get back together. Gurl you might not want to admit it but you still have feelings for him.
2006-11-13 07:30:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
please put your insecurities to rest, dreams about ex's are not uncommon and generally mean that the dreamer is in a bad dream
2006-11-13 07:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋