I'm having a hard time understanding why men work so hard to get a woman to give him her heart...and when she finally does...you men become jerks. Can you guys please explain why you do this?
2006-11-13 07:25:37 · 5 answers · asked by lisa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm going to answer your question a little differently that you are expecting.
1) We are not all the same.. I totally agree with most of the other answers..
2) A person that is a "jerk" (can be either sex), is simply one that does not put much effort into the relationship once the courtship is over, or one that just will not commit.. this could be a player, a trophy chaser, etc.. If you are having this experience often then I would suggest you are making an emotional commitment way too early in your relationships. For example in the "courtship" phase rather that the settle in, "get real" phase.
3) It take a long time to know you can trust someone with your emotions and you should take that very seriously. Untrustworthy people show their true colors pretty quickly if you are paying attention..
- Don't get hung up on what you want it to be.. You must observe what it is.. and decide if it works for you or not.
4) If you are not emotionally committed, moving on is much easier to do.
"A man either knows how to treat a lady or he doesn't".. Don't settle for anything less than what you want, period.
2006-11-13 16:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are like this but unfortunetly there are a lot of them. The guys that are usually nice are the ones that don't ask us out. They are the ones that tend to blend in with their surrounding so you don't notice them. They are too shy to talk to us especailly if they find us attractive. Keep going because eventually you'll find that guy that is worth having a relationship with. He's probably hiding in a corner waiting for you to notice him.
As for the other guys out there it is hard to see which ones are which and then we have a tendencie to assume the nice ones are just like the others. I suggest when you start dating just remember that the beggining of a relationship is not how he is going to be in a few months. It usually takes about 3 to 8 months for the true self to surface so just keep saying I might just be able to fall in love with you but only time will tell. It establishes two objectives: 1 protects you from falling in love by reminding yourself that it might not be real and 2 makes him fall in love quicker because he takes the time to actually get to know you instead of just trying to get you in bed because he will realizes that even if he gets you in bed that is not going to win the battle of you falling for him and raising his ego!
2006-11-13 07:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by Janet J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its happened to me there the nicest person you could ever think of before you become a thing then after he's the biggest jerk ever. You think what happened to the guy you were before we went hint to you guys we chose to go out with the nice guy not the jerk.
2006-11-13 07:40:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the answer above but here is another reason. men liekthe thrill of the chase. We like the challenge and when we finally get our prize, well some not all but some guys like to move on to the next challenge
2006-11-13 07:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because women like jerks. If you don't think so, look at whom you go out with. It is never the (boring) nice guys.
2006-11-13 07:28:03 · answer #5 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋