i'm 17 and my bf is 27 no one knows about us. Hes enaged. I've known him since i was like 12. he says he doesn't know if he wants to get married now. he tells me he loves me but i fell like our relationship is just phyical. should i break it off now or stay with him?
2006-11-13 07:22:41 · 44 answers · asked by georgia girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hes enaged to some one else. hes the only guy ive ever physicaly been with.
2006-11-13 07:34:08 · update #1
First, off let me start by saying that age is only a number. But honestly he is 10 years older than you. You haven't even became an adult yet. I know that you aren't to far from that but truly what do you 2 have in common other than sex? I believe that age is only a number when both are of adult age and know what they are doing.
I'm not saying that you don't love him and all but you are younger then him. And if you were to stay with him think of all the things that he can do compared to you because of that age difference.
Example, he can go to bars and you can't. Honestly your life is just beginning. You need to live a little and explore other options.
How do you know that what you are feeling for this guy just isn't infatuation. It may seem real now but in a while it might have been a mistake.
If I was you I would break it off now before you end up getting hurt badly.
If he can't be honest and faithful to his current fiance what chance do you have with him? I know that he says he might not want to get married and he loves you but I am sure he's just saying that so that you don't leave him. He wants to have his cake and eat it too.
Honestly honey you don't want to commit your life to a liar and cheater. How do you know that he hasn't already did these things to you? He has his fiance!!!
Chances are if you stay with this guy he'll get bored and you will be on the other end of the stick like his current fiance.
What happens if he does go through with the engagement. What if he gets married? Are you gonna settle for being his sloppy seconds. Are you gonna continue to hold on to what isn't yours?
Wisen up now and kick him to the curb now. Star looking for a guy closer to your own age and one that isn't already commited to another person.
You deserve better then what he is offering to you. There is a guy out there just for you and you only and he isn't it.
In what ever choice you make about this guy I bid you good luck. But if it was me I would dump him!!!!!!!!!!!!
And listen to what your conscience is telling you about him. If you are feeling it is only physical then chances are that you are right. Our intuition is seldom wrong when it comes to matters like these.
2006-11-13 07:52:51 · answer #1 · answered by rockn75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say the only reason a 27 yr old would date a 17 is for the physical relationship. Find someone closer to your age who has the same interests and goals. He is breaking the law dating you because you are a minor.
2006-11-13 07:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by tinker bell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe he is not your boyfriend,this jerk is playing you.You need to get the hell away find a man your age and forget this 27 year old.Now you may wonder how I know so much about your affair. The honest truth I was that kind of a jerk.I hate myself for all the pain I caused.Now he is going th cause you pain as well.You need to love yourself enough to leave without regret.You can do so much better.Don't be fooled by any man.I'm one
that can & will tell like it is.GO & GO NOW.You sure don't need someone like meGood luck I have hurt so many young ladys,don't give him the chanch to hurt you & trust me he will.
2006-11-13 07:44:18 · answer #3 · answered by I'm Jerry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok serious , my daughter was 16 when she met a man 26 , at first she lied to me about everything , but in the end it all came out , anyway they went out for two years , they were even engaged . Someone else came into my daughters life that she loved even more (so she says) , and closer to her own age . What I am trying to say to you is wait , don't do anything until you are much older and know for a fact that this is what you want . Another thing is he is engaged he must love this woman to want to spend his life with her . You will find someone that you will want to share your life with , just take your time .......
2006-11-13 07:30:29 · answer #4 · answered by T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, first of all, ahve you heard of statutory rape?
This guy is engaged, and in a physical relationship with you too? What's to stop him from ditching you for someone else 3,6,9 months down the line?
This guy sounds like a real loser, and you should want better for yourself. Ditch him now, or i think you'll only cause yourself unhappiness, drama, and pain in the future...
2006-11-13 07:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by strawberryblonde131313 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's already engages, you should break it off. Follow your heart. If you feel like the relationship is only physical, it probably is. Us ladies have a sixth sense for this kind of thing. If it doesn't feel right, most likely it isn't.
2006-11-13 07:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by fiorie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BREAK IT OFF NOW. it is purely physical, and he's taking advantage of the fact that you're so young. put an end to this relationship...why do you think no one knows about you two? because it's not a healthy relationship.
2006-11-13 07:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by bosox.girl23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say good bye
the guy is engage and is cheating with u
at that age he should know what he wants and he is confuse
u dont need that
u r too young for the drama
believe me in life u r going to go thru lots of drama dont start now especially when u can avoid it
2006-11-13 07:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he engaged to you? If you feel its just physical then break it off. There is no use being with him if you dont get love other than sex out of the relationship.
2006-11-13 07:25:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you say statutory rape? no offense but if he's engaged, he's not your "bf". and if he's still engaged, then he'll never be your "bf" and all you'll ever be to him is his underage plaything.
a real man would not be with you if he were engaged. a little boy trying to get laid as much as he can before he's married probably has other 17 year old girls whom "no one knows about"
frankly, if hypothetically he did break up his engagement and married you instead, wouldn't you start to worry as you got older and other 17 year old nymphettes started to catch his eye?
fool me once. . . .
2006-11-13 07:29:52 · answer #10 · answered by Gina S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋