Years ago a friend asked me if I would ever settle. At the time I said hell no; however, I was dating a girl I really liked and could not imagine being the lonely bastard that I am now. So, I'm a lonely bastard now and I am compelled to settle. However, I'm finding settling has a lot more problems than going for a chick I really like. Have you ever settled? Did it work out? Did you encounter any problems settling?
2006-11-13 07:19:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only time to settle is when you're dead. Or, at the very least, old, retired, and bored.
2006-11-13 09:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't settle for less than what you consider to be the best. There are just too many interesting people out here to meet, though you wil run across some idiots too, and life its to short to settle for whoever will say ok I'll be with you. You know the things that you want and in my experience when you settle you end up more miserable than you would if you were alone. Reason being that this person you decide to settle already does not meet your expectations, so already they have that against them. You will constantly nit pick every thing they do and continuously find little things about them that deeply irritate you, so my suggestion, even if you are lonely, you can always find someone to occupy your time, or go get a hobby or do something constructive with the time you normally spend by yourself. Go volunteer or at least do something you like, that way you can meet people with the same interests. There are just too many other lonely people in this world to settle for the first thing that comes along, get out there and apply yourself. Nobody said it would be easy, But it's easier to help those, who are trying to help themselves. All the best.
2006-11-13 07:31:13 · answer #2 · answered by TRUTH HURTZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh cripes, do I hate this whole concept of "settling." Settling for what??? The fact is, no matter what you choose, you're settling. Right now you're settling for being a lonely person, when you could be building a relationship with a great woman (or guy) who may not happen to meet every single desire on your checklist. There's fantastic book on this subject--it's called the Paradox of Choice. It's not about relationships in particular, but about how people who "never settle for less than the best" are generally seriously miserable no matter what, and why that is and why it should be avoided if you want to find any happiness in life.
2006-11-13 07:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Settling... nothing wrong with it the problem is the person you do it with. You see when you hear that word you see yourself going out doing things and living with the SAME person. And yes it can be boring and very not fun but its different when you meet that one person that makes you feel like doing all those things with them. My guy and I make sure we don't bore our relationship were young and have so much ahead of ourselves being in each others face will get annoying that's why find that person you care for and hang in there for the right reason. It was smart of you not to settle if you weren't feeling it so now that you are try it out and if you don't like it move on.
2006-11-13 07:27:44 · answer #4 · answered by D'oh! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone has a special someone, and you will meet that someone when the time is right. I don't think anyone should settle, you are better than that.
If your feelin lonely, pick up a hobby, or find something to do socially that will make you feel less lonely. Maybe you'll bump into that special someone when you aren't even looking for them... U never know it could happen... :-)
2006-11-13 07:22:40 · answer #5 · answered by strawberryblonde131313 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you decide to spend the rest of your life with someone, it shouldn't be "settling". That's like saying "oh, i don't have anything else better to do- i might as well find a person and lie to them and tell them that i care about them so i won't be alone and bored. besides, everyone's supposed to get married i guess". if those are the thoughts going thru your head, you are not ready for any kind of relationship.
do yourself a favor and don't get married until you find a person who you don't feel like you're simply "settling" for.
2006-11-13 07:26:51 · answer #6 · answered by miss advice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
settling = always wondering if you could have ever had what your REALLY wanted and it goes beyond just settling for some one you kinda like as opposed to someone you really like because that persone you really like maybe turn out to be not so much your type. and the person you kinda like you may be more compatible with.
2006-11-13 07:23:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd rather be single than settle. You'll only be hurting yourself and the girl in the long run.
2006-11-13 07:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by Jenna S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it doesn't feel right it's not right!!!
2006-11-13 07:21:55 · answer #9 · answered by bethanybuilder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋