I want to set a date where as he wants to wait until we are fully established..We already have a daughter and with his job and mine we will never have enough money..I want something small just to exchange vows but he doesnt think about marriage twice! Any help?
2006-11-13 07:18:19 · 12 answers · asked by rkonkin226 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have been with my partner for 20 years we have a 7 year old daughter.I have asked him 3 times to marry me each time he finds an excuse not too, but i know the real reason.He thinks because his parents divorced when he was a child and some of our friends have split that the same will happen to us.As much as i would like to get married i would never leave him as i love him and i know he loves me.At the end of the day marriage is only a piece of paper is it really worth the arguments as long as your happy who cares.
2006-11-13 07:36:56 · answer #1 · answered by plumbob 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey. do no longer hear to human beings. you are the right age to get engaged. human beings say wait till 25 because of the fact statistically people who get married over that age have lasting marriages. difficulty with this is, if a marriage is going to fail, it is going to fail. If it is going to artwork, it is going to artwork. you have been at the same time 5 years. you have lived at the same time for 2. you be conscious of the way that's going to artwork once you're married on the grounds which you reside it. the only factor which will replace is your identify. you would be a "Mrs." and a spouse. particular i could get engaged at 21 (i'm 20 now, been with my guy very nearly 3 years now and he's 26). If that's what him and that i wished. that's no one else's enterprise what I do with my real looking that. The buddies and kin can butt out. you may no longer difficulty approximately what others think of of your existence and your alternatives, somebody won't like it no count what you do. you may desire to make your self and your companion chuffed. by way of ways, announcing no could in all likelihood end the courting hun. Relationships do no longer tolerate rejected proposals too properly.
2016-12-17 09:26:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money should never be an obstacle to getting married! Why get engaged if you're not going to get married? You've been engaged almost a year! You need to give him a swift kick in the butt.
There are two different things here:
-The wedding is just a day. It's what you want to set the date for.
-The marriage is about so much more. If he's not thinking about setting a wedding date that's one thing, if he's not thinking about marriage that's a bigger concern. The marriage is the important part!
What does he see happening on your wedding day? What is important to him in regards to the wedding? Maybe there are ways to compromise. Either way it's important to talk to him about these things becuase it sounds like he's really dragging his feet.
2006-11-13 07:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by Ali D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that it is important for the two of you to be married for medical reasons, if you went into a coma he would have no say about how you were treated.
If he won't marry you with in the next 3 months I say move on with you life. You deserve better.
2006-11-13 08:48:55 · answer #4 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are established already. You have a child, jobs and living somewhere. If you are going to stay together get married, if not dump him.
2006-11-13 07:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does he mean established? it sounds like the relationship is pretty established, yeah money might be tight, but is that really what matters? you need to talk to him tell him how your feeling and what your thinking, and find out why he wants to wait.
2006-11-13 07:22:29 · answer #6 · answered by Hannah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like it is just an excuse for him. It does not seem that he actually wants to get married. You need to tell him its now or never and mean it!
Good luck
2006-11-13 07:30:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
we;;, if you're like most people, there will never be enough money but you can always get buy and have what you need if you try. Do you suppose he just got engaged to pacify you?
2006-11-13 07:28:26 · answer #8 · answered by Texas T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations for being together this long
Congratulations for the engagement
2006-11-13 08:49:59 · answer #9 · answered by sweet_blue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what exactly his intentions were when he proposed. Then ask him if he's having 2nd thoughts. If he's not, then just tell him flat out that you'll be planning your wedding to be small and intimate and that that's what YOUR intention was when you said "yes".
2006-11-13 07:40:44 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋