How do you cope with stress?Any answers that may help are appreciated!!?

Question

I get so stressed so easily over things i have no control over and my patience...well i don't have much of that.What are some good mechanisms that you use to help cope with stress in your life???

Answer 1

Long hot showers, meditation, exercise, screaming into my pillow, just about anything. I have a lot of trouble with patience too. If there are certain people that drive you crazy the first thing is to remember your being upset doesn't do anything to them. Sometimes you just have to let go of things. (Easier said than done!!)

I also find it helpful to talk with someone. Let someone else know how you are feeling. Talk about what is stressing you out. Chances are someone else has gone through a similar event. While they may not be able to help you now, knowing that they survived will help relieve some of your stress.

Answer 2

I usually sing a song...

I am slowly going crazy 1,2,3,4,5,6 SWITCH
Crazy going slowly am I 6,5,4,3,2,1 SWITCH

Usually a couple of times clears the head.

However... Everyone deals differently and you have to find your own way... Some people walk, exercise... Some people write, journal... Some people take DEEP BREATHS... Some people hide until the feeling is resolved.

The whole key is not to let yourself get worked up over things. If you notice something is getting out of hand, break it up, tell everyone this is going no where and step back take a break breath get control (control is the key there).

Whether professional or personal, if there is conflict on how to resolve a problem it all works the same. Conflict wont get you anywhere, step back... go do something fun, relaxing something that you enjoy and then when people can calm down long enough to have a conversation... the stress will be gone and the conversation will go off without a hitch.

Okay it works for me because I refuse to be in an invironment where conflict and confrontation is first and discussion is second.

Again the key is control... Only you can control how you feel, no one and I mean no one can control how you feel.

Answer 3

I used to be a type A personality. I took everything personally and set a work schedule for myself that was backbreaking. I came to realize that the only person who has these expectations was myself. As for taking things personally, most people are conveying something entirely different that what we are hearing. When I feel my shackles rising, I stop and ask that person what they really meant. It is often quite different than how I took it. There are some good books at the library and one of them deals with your emotions and how to handle them. I cant remembr the name but if you go look on the shelves it has something to do with recognizing your emotions, what part of the body these emotions relate to and what this means. Counting to 10 and taking deep breaths is still a good way to go. I also went to a therapist to determine why I was so angry and had so little patience. It really helps to talk out your issues. What is sad here is that it is extremely difficult to find a therapist that you feel good with. I lucked out. And when all else fails, I take a tranquilizer. I use Xanax but very seldom. I only take a pill when I feel I am totally overwhelmed and the other methods have not worked. I also suggest listening to music that has happy memories for you and I mean happy...not the maudlin ones that relive bad times. And last, take a good long walk.

Answer 4

1. Talk about your feeling. If you have problem, talk to whom you most believe.

2. Stay active and follow a healthy life style. Make exercise as one of your family's activities.

3. Eat nutritious and healthy foods. The healthy mind start with healthy foods.

4. Do something that you really like and will make you satisfied. Eg., make sure you are in interest in your work and carrier.

5. Always spend a quality time with your family.

6. Accept for what you are. Don't compare yourself with anyone. You are special for being yourself.

Answer 5

Well when i start to get stressed out, i take a time out. I take a deep breath, and i think about what the problem really is thats bothering me. Most of the time its something that isnt that important but im just putting to much focus on it.

Answer 6

You don't "cope" so much as learn. You need to learn to relax and in turn, control your emotions. You do have control when you want to (I doubt you behave the same way when you talk to a doctor or police officer).
Try some self-hypnosis to relax your mind. It takes about 20 minutes a day and, like learning a new language, you learn how to remain calm and manage your emotions.
http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/cat/stress_management.html

Answer 7

although i often don't feel like doing it, exercise is really helpful. try to do some cardio a few times a week or fit in 30 mins everyday. this does not mean you have to run like a person in the olympics, but just taking a nice walk outside is really helpful. yoga is also really helpful. i keep yoga tapes a home and aerobics tapes. try to pick exercise an activity that you would enjoy. i like dancing so i do aerobics because i can dance and sweat and exercise all at the same time. it takes time for you to notice how it helps the mood but it really does eleviate stress.

i also like taking hot baths when i have a chance. pick a bubble bath that has your favorite scent. it's cliche but lighting candles or having flowers in your bathroom for decoration really helps. you have to surround yourself with a pleasing atmosphere so you can relax and be content. read a book or listen to some music.

writing down your feelings in a journal is also helpful or pick a relazing activity that really makes you feel good. like drawing or doing crosswords. although it takes work you have to organize times where you can be by yourself or simply relax and do nothing. this does not mean always just watching tv, but really making time for yourself.

i suffer from panic attacks so i know what extreme stress feels like. i take meds but you do not necessarily have to do that. i often write lists or write in my journal about things i am worried about and then i read over them. if it is something i cannot do anything about at that moment or something truly beyond my control i say "i am not going to worry about this. i am a good person and i have more important things to pay attention to". remind yourself that you don't deserve to feel stressed out all the time. remind yourself of your strengths and that you want to feel good. self-talk is really a great tool.

the main thing is to surround yourself by things that make you happy. if there are things that you don't need in your life that cause you stress, get rid of them. take care of your body and plan out time where you can exercise and relax. breathing exercises are also great for quickly calming down the body and clearing the head. breath in SLOWLY for a 5 count, hold the breath for 2 count and breath out 5 count. does this a few times or for however long you like. it always makes me feel better.

i hope this helps. i know how awful it is to be constantly stressed out. i really sympathize with your situation. even if none of the things i mentioned help you or seem useful, i hope you find something to release some of that unnecessary stress. good luck!! :)

Answer 8

Just walk away from the situation, take a deep breath, step outside get some fresh air clear your head. My favorite way to de-stress is to ride my scooter.....

Answer 9

I'd say, "that's all you've got?" I've gotten so much worse like "Were you born stupid, or did you study to get this way?" and "put the razor blades away little girl." Some really creative insults...that wouldn't faze me at all...it's actually kind of disappointing, really. I expect better from people.

Answer 10

I found a great stress website.
Check out ( http://www.reducingstress.net )
Good luck.