i am 28...2 kids both have different dads. both dads are deadbeats and uninvolved. i would love to get married one day. would any decent guy be willing to take on a woman with so much responsibility or should i just throw in the towel?
2006-11-13 07:00:01 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know a guy who is madly in love with a 27 year old girl with three kids. If they are real men, they will love you for you, and not look at kids being a burden. Having kids just adds to the bonus. Real men are not afraid of responsibility. They don't shy away from it. Those are the ones that you need to look for, because, if they will be willing to accept your kids as well as you, you will have them forever. So, do not throw in the towel just yet. I believe that there is someone out there for everyone. Good Luck!!!!
2006-11-13 07:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by pupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's still hope for you- my advice, though, would be to stop having kids and make sure your next relationship is a good one with a man that won't head for the hills at the first sign of trouble. Keep in mind, that every relationship you expose your children to is affecting them- so make it with a man that's worthy of a place in their life. Don't throw up the fact that their dads are deadbeats, either- puts guys off a litte and isn't good for the kids to hear. Just say "uninvolved."
2006-11-13 07:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer F 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh lord. You can not think that way. I have one child, but I know from experience because my oldest sister has four children. If you are a good mother, do all you can, are honest, dependable, and hardworking, any man on this earth would be privledged to be with you. I am recently divorced and I have not had any problems finding someone, I know I have been down alot, and I have had to pick myself up and start again too. You have two children, your past is nobodys business, and you have so many opportunities. Don't ever think that you are not good enough for someone, you are a mother, and more above that, you should and will have them chasing after you. Your more likely to find the right kind of man then some little bar hopper will. The man you find will love you for you, and your children. Keep your head up. I HAVE EDITED MINE AFTER READING SOME OF THE ANSWERS--The People Who Are Down On This Woman (WolfMan 46) Should Grow Up. Judging By Mr. Wolfmans Picture, he could use alot of help!
2006-11-13 07:14:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 28. I have two sons that have different dads only one is a dead beat. During this time I had two relationship that were both long term relationships. We grew up together and that was the hard part. We both wanted to different things. I went back to college to get my degree so I could support my kids. I now have a decent job making good money. I am my sons image of a strong woman. I am their role model. Any decent man would be glad to have me. I am not asking a man to take care of my family. I do it on my own. Its hard but it has to be done. The question is what can this man bring to the table.
2006-11-13 07:06:46 · answer #4 · answered by justturning40 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely I have friends that are single mothers of 2 and 3 kids and some of the fathers are not involved. You are still young and there are several men out there that love kids or do not mind dating a woman that has children. I have a daughter and I a 28 and have had no issues dating men because i have a daughter. Just make sure you pick a good man that will be nice to your kids.
2006-11-13 07:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by Venus 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I married a woman who was 32 with two kids and we have been happily together for 6 and 1/2 years. So I would say no, don't throw in the towel. Start doing some things for yourself, build up some confidence, and don't rush things when the big date comes along.
2006-11-13 07:03:13 · answer #6 · answered by beatnik75 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course you will find someone to want you again. Sounds as if you have had some bad luck. First and foremost take credit for being the good parent caring for your two children and right now, this should be your priority. A man will admire you and respect you if he sees you strong, able and managing your responsibility with maturity. I don't think any man would be too happy with a woman who presented herself as needy. Remember, it is your ex husbands who are the deadbeats, not you.
2006-11-14 12:35:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't think like that. You need to start all over again--remember to be yourself--What do you have to offer a man? How can you make a man happy(not sex)There are guys out there looking for a good woman. Yes, kids will make it difficult, but it can be done. You just need to find a good man--That means dating the kind of guy that you would like to get married to. Hang out in places those types of guys would be. If you want to marry a drunk, hang out at bars--If you want to marry a decent responsible guy, then hang out at such places. Think this out & have self confidence-be yourself, not fake!
2006-11-13 07:06:16 · answer #8 · answered by thansen080972 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married a woman 15 years ago that had to boys from different dads. It was good at first and I gave them and her anything they needed. New homes, cars, everything. It lasted about 6 years before I caught her cheating with some dirty biker. I mean dirty. It destroyed me but I would do it again if the woman with the right morals etc. came along. Don't give up and please appreciate the love that someone gives you. Good luck! GaryT
2006-11-13 07:03:48 · answer #9 · answered by gary t 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of decent guys out there who would be willing... you just have to be patient enough to find him. You need to be sure to take a look at what brought these other two losers into your life, and make sure that you are doing something different this time. Don't settle for anything less than exactly what you need.
2006-11-13 07:03:12 · answer #10 · answered by czekoskwigel 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋