I have a girlfriend who I care about deeply. However, I'm in to alot of freaky S*** & this other girl I met found out my "weakness" & uses it against me. Now, I can't seem to break away from this thing because it like controls me. I need help on how to break from this thing. The problem is, I Luv what this chic can do & I'm trying to deny it but I can't. Suggestions, please.
2006-11-13 06:54:40 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Simply put.......
Is your girlfriend worth more to you than this other girl?
Desire is very alluring.
We can enjoy many things but what are we willing to give up for them?
Weigh it ...you don't need to deny it ....just choose.
Can you talk to your girl and see if she is up to indulging some of your freakiness?
You can't have it all brother...LOL
mandy
2006-11-13 13:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by cking_pOise... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, let me commend you on taking the first step - admitting you have a problem.
Second, the thing to do is if you can't truly break from the hold this woman has on you (and trust me, I know from holds! Been there myself) then you must let the girlfriend go. It's not fair to her to keep cheating on her and letting her think she can trust you. Or you might try (and this is a small suggestion that I would think very carefully about) being honest with your girl, letting her know this other chick has this "hold" on you and you like it. Realizing of course that you could lose her (your gf) but if you continue in this way you'll lose her anyway; and hurt her on top of it. I'm assuming asking your girl to "freak down" in the bedroom is out of the question? She may be more open to it than you know if you just talk to her. If she's not, then you have to make a choice...stay with her, cheating with this other chic and risk losing her; or find a way to break from the chic who's making you feel so good. I know it feels good now, but in the end what have you got? You sound as if you may be kind of on the younger side, so maybe you don't need to be in a serious relationship. Have a nice time with the "good girl" and let the other chic make your fantasies come true. Nothing wrong with that at all.
Good luck.
2006-11-13 08:05:24 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume your girlfriend WON"T do this "thing"? You may be thrilled with this other chic's "skills", but for how long all things considered I think you might want to step away from the freak if you really care about the other, this freak is giving you momentary pleasure, if that is what you really want in your life right now then keep on with it, but you will probably lose the other and I think you already know this. So do what it is you feel when "girl" is not down on your thing - that's whats real, what you feel when she isn't doing that "thing". PS do you think lowly of her for what she does, I'm just wondering why you don't get the girl you really like to do it to you? We already know the answer to that don't we?!
2006-11-13 07:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by comp junkie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you like it enough that it makes you happy then if i were you I'd stay. If you really want your girlfriend to stay then I'd get rid of the problem. Tell the girl that you don't want what ever it is even if you really do. Or you could talk to your girlfriend and maybe shes into the same stuff as you are and you get what you want with the girlfriend.
2006-11-13 07:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by serenity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth. If she can't handle the truth then she's not a good girlfriend. That's what being a realtionship about being truthful and honest. So just break it down to her slowly or just tell her off.. It might be better just to tell the truth. In a realtionship you can't keep secrets.. That's my opion
2006-11-13 06:59:26 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_cheeks_ai3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u trying 2 say ur are being manipulate by some girl eather get things straight up or be the street dog shes thinking of u.seriously
2006-11-13 07:03:37 · answer #6 · answered by Baby Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Egnore that other girl and worry about y GF care for her and get her 2 lv u
2006-11-13 06:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by froggerty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lemme guess....she's not afriad to put things in your 'back end' and as a result, you think you might be gay or something? Relax, dude. It sounds to me like you are very experimental and for now, that's fine. It might fade, it might not. Doesn't really matter, enjoy yourself!
2006-11-13 06:58:44 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cared about your girl the way you claim you would not be messing with the other girl.....
What is it with guys....that can't seem to think with the right head???
You need to pick which one you want to be with......and be honest to her and yourself.
2006-11-13 07:00:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...Just curoius but what excatly are you talking about. Its hard to control those fetishes. Ask your girlfriend if she will do it with you, and if not I guess you are SOL.
2006-11-13 06:59:33 · answer #10 · answered by Prissy_kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋