I have a new b/f and things are goin really well. We have had sex once already and well he's not the biggest in size but he still does it for me in bed. The problem...the last two times when we get into, i notice he is shaking and when i say something he says he's nervous around me. I tell him not to be worried and just enjoy us being together. Problem is I can tell he gets really worked up, but just can't seem to get it up. I have tried bj's of course and that doesnt seem to help.
Guys....what works for you in this situation? This is the first time I have had this happen with a guy, so I am at a loss. I dont want him thinking that he isnt doing it for me, b/c he is.
2006-11-13 06:53:12 · 5 answers · asked by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just a note...we went out in middle school about 15yrs ago for about a year and now we are together again. he says he's been in love with me since the day he first saw me....so maybe its the love of his life type nerves...i dont know
2006-11-13 06:54:35 · update #1
we have talked about it outside the bedroom. he says this has never happened but that he has always been nervous around me and is still in amazement that we are goin out again after 15yrs. i am very patient and will to wait...i just want him to know its ok and that i want to please him as well besides just telling him....make sense?
2006-11-13 07:06:15 · update #2
Try snuggling ONLY. Tell him (nicely, make up some excuse) that there will be NO sex, only kissing, cuddling, etc. for the next 7 dates or so.
The pressure will be off and it may work wonders because he is having performance pressure for some reason.
The cuddling, hugging, loving, will give him time to become more relaxed with you. Most likely, he will be more than ready (and able) for sex before the end of your "no sex" dates are over.
2006-11-13 07:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by LittleBitOfSugar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get that man some liqour
he needs a special concoction i call love potion 69
it's three shots of liqour followed by three more shots then a spank on the *** from a sexy chick and all the lovin is on me
2006-11-13 07:01:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time and keep going to bed with him. He'll start to relax and then he'll bring it on home.
I was 17 and I went to bed with this older woman. I was so nervous I couldn't get it up......seriously! But she was so sweet and patient. It didn't take long and she was getting what she wanted!
2006-11-13 06:59:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe try talking to him about it outside of the bedroom, ask him what's up, or if something's on his mind?
2006-11-13 06:56:17 · answer #4 · answered by jubby 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never had it happen to me, he sounds like a candy ***. Sure he's not gay?
2006-11-13 06:56:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋