there used to be a lot of attraction between us but I don't want that kind of thing with him but I don't wanna lose him as a friend either, so I wanna be a friend to him without making he hate me for messing with him, which I'm not doing in my opinion
2006-11-13 06:38:07 · 20 answers · asked by south e 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
start acting like one of the guys around him, fart spit watch football, and cuss never wear makeup around him....it works everytime
2006-11-13 06:42:22 · answer #1 · answered by seilygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not responsible for the fact that he is hot for you. As long as you haven't had sex or made out or done anything sexual, you can simply stop responding to his advances. However, you also cannot control how he will take the shift in things. He may get upset with you which is something you can't control.
2006-11-13 14:41:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you are not interested in him that way but love his friendship. There is really no way to say that without saying it. If he values your friendship then he will understand, if not then you can not be friends with him. Good luck, i was in a similar situation when i was single and now that i am married he and i are no longer friends. He realized that he could not keep his friendship without his feelings getting in the way
2006-11-13 14:43:11 · answer #3 · answered by micah z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably you need to stop talking about sex or making sexual inneundos. ALso probably you are wearing sexy clothes. In other words, there is something giving this guy the wrong idea about you-ether your appearance or your communication-either verbal or non-verbal communication is sexually suggestive. Try toning it down a little.
2006-11-13 14:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by gigi120pelham 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. And i know u understand how he feels (about you) too. I suggest you let him know how you feel. If you keep trying to send him these secreets messages he might not still get it. just tell him very nicely over lunch or while yall are hanging out alone.
PS. I agree with gigi120
Good Luck
2006-11-13 14:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most times you build a bond with someone you have sex with. Not always, but you can tell him you want to be friends with him. You may not be able to, but you tried. Otherwise you will just have to leave the friendship or continue to have sex with him sometimes...
2006-11-13 14:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by daj11551 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel. I would put it more than"jump your bones!" kind of deal.
Just tell him you two have a good thing going as friends and you don't want to lose it!
He might just appreciate that!!
2006-11-13 14:41:42 · answer #7 · answered by redirishactress 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is that possible? I wouldn't think so.
Unless you're BOTH completely dedicated to having a platonic relationship, it won't work w/o the attraction on one end.
2006-11-13 14:40:12 · answer #8 · answered by Jasmine Lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this is a one way street. If you have had a sexual relationship with him - move on. If not, explain your feeling to him. If he's a real man he'll understand and if not - move on.........
2006-11-13 14:42:15 · answer #9 · answered by pikeruss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can be very painful for him if he loves you. He will not be able to let you go either but he will be longing for intimacy. If he is lucky he will grow to hate you but otherwise it will be very very painful for him. You are in dangerous territory, you are warned!
2006-11-13 14:45:44 · answer #10 · answered by solanacea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋