There's this Guy I met through College And he's Really nice and we had fun this Past weekend! Went out to eat, Played Pool and I Introduced him to my Friends, etc and Not to mention, I Introduced him to the Real me, Funny and Full of life, But there's that voice in the Back of my head saying "I Don't know"....Because I've been hurt so many times, But im Afraid to let him Know I Have Trust issues...What should I Do because I Think he's Good for me and I Don't want to loose him, Especially not as a Friend if we Don't Become More!
2006-11-13 06:38:02 · 9 answers · asked by kittysweetie19 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to gain something great, there are sacrifices we have to make.. and that includes putting your heart on the line once in a while. give it a shot. if you get your heart ripped out... it will always heal. imagine if it turned out for the best??!
good luck and God Bless
2006-11-13 06:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, whatever you do, PLEASE don't utter the words "trust issues" to this guy, or he will freak out and run. I know it's hard, but you can't bring all your baggage from the past into a budding new relationship- at least not at once. Keep it light the next few times you see him. Let him know you're totally interested in him and that you're available for dates. As the two of you get to know each other better, your level of trust will get deeper and you might be able to talk with him about some of the things that have happened to you in the past. Love is all about getting totally burned about a million times and then not getting burned once. As my friend says, it's a numbers game. You might be able to protect your heart by avoiding dating and staying friends with all the attractive guys you meet, but a protected heart won't do you any good when you're sitting there all alone. You have to take a chance, in case he's the big love you've been waiting for! Of course, you can't say all this to him now, because in my experience, when a relationship of any kind is just getting started, all a girl has to do is start talking about how she's waiting for true love and she's tired of being hurt, and has trust issues, etc. and the guy will automatically think of her as a crazy, stalker-y girl who will get all clingy on him if he makes a move. Even if that's the farthest thing from the truth, they still will think that about you, unfortunately. Keep it light, keep having fun with him, and keep your mind open to romantic possibilities with this guy. Good luck!
2006-11-13 06:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be open with him. As a friend or more he should know the truth. I've been through this both ways and trust is huge in a reltionship. You need to be open and honest and give him a chance. not all guys are out to hurt girls some are actually real sweethearts. good luck
2006-11-13 06:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by bellsbabe26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I advise you to just take your time. If you guys just met, there's no reason for you to rush things, therefore possibly ruining a good thing. Over time, as the relationship grows, then you should tell him about your trust issues. If he's really the one for you, things will work out. Give it time, girlfriend....
2006-11-13 06:41:34 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Spirit♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no longer something incorrect with announcing "that grew to become into final weekend." I mean, you may spruce it up by way of announcing "That journey befell on the 1st weekend previous," yet none too many talk like that anymore.
2016-12-17 09:25:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The trust issues are with other people.
The rule is you give everyone your trust at first.
Then if they don't respect it that then they get cut oft.
It should not change your heart because it is a reflection of their character and not yours
2006-11-13 06:44:39 · answer #6 · answered by mmmkay_us 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to remember that you have to go through a lot of oysters before you find a pearl
2006-11-13 06:48:17 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep it that way don't change anything if he is acting weird that probably he just wants you to have only relationship with him
2006-11-13 06:40:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T LISTEN TO THE VOICE, IT IS JUST SCARED. JUST DO IT, HE SOUNDS NICE.
2006-11-13 06:39:53 · answer #9 · answered by Juice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋