It's been a yr and 4 months since i broke up with my ex, I did right in breaking up with him. But i cant seem to forget him. Weeks pass when im good, i feel great..but then i think of him again..of what i had, and think how much i love him, Still. Why do i torture myself when i know it cant be. Is it normal...?
2006-11-13 06:29:26 · 16 answers · asked by *Cali Sweetie* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It IS normal...But you need to move on with your life. Immerse yourself in work, play, enjoying your friends. "Love" comes along when it's least expected and life REALLY IS too short not to enjoy it. Ask yourself "if this is my last day on earth, do I want to spend it feeling sad and miserable"? Of course you don't, but remember God doesn't promise us tomorrow, so live your life today! :)
2006-11-13 06:34:50 · answer #1 · answered by Tweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it is Normal as well as you can put it. Sometimes when things are hard and you are feeling are tight you feel or think about the way things the way they were and how good it felt to know that someone cares about you. Now when you feel upset you feel alone, kinda scared, or just not sure what you want to do. Sometimes you think back and think of him the way he knew everything about you the nice things he did just because he knew you and you let him in. Now I'm guessing that you have put up a wall. That wall might as well be called your Ex cause you place everyone against it to see if they remind you of him in the ways you liked so very much and also to see what you need to stay away from. Your best bet is to take a chance Look outside of the box. Don't think of the reasons you left your ex may have been in some ways wrong because you took it as long as you could. Just look forward and give people a chance. Don't think cuz you don't have anything to do on the weekend that it would have been better. Just keep your head up and your thoughts moving and remember your worth the wait to find what your looking for. I Know it may be hard at times and I'm not going to say that your never going to look back, yet catch yourself remember yourself and realize that life is just a breath away. Take a deep one and live! Smile safe!!!! Life is all around you!!!
2006-11-13 14:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by redskymoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the weeks that are good you probably don't see anything or do anything that reminds you of him. the weeks the you do see something that reminds you of him are the harder ones. Id say try to find out what brings back these feelings and avoid doing those things for a while. Or do new things to block out the old ones. Its natural to feel this way about a ex but you just have to find a way to move on.
2006-11-13 14:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES my DEAR this is NORMAL. BUT,when some one is bad 4 us he is bad 4 us. JUST LIKE ME. I FELL 4 a man who was a lier. HE did a lot of good things. BUT later i had a hard time believing him after i caught him in lies. AND then he was smoking crack be hind my back. AND he took our rent moneys and bought drugs. I think about him. BUT i also know thats not my life style. HE was doing everything , i was taught against.HE was breaking the law. I thought if i stayed with him any longer i would go to jail.JUST know if they are wrong 4 you they are wrong. G0d will bring MR right. SOON when your ready. HAng in there. STAR
2006-11-13 14:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very normal... we always seem to forget the bad things of the relationship and why we really did break up with that person. Try and move on... focus on friends or maybe dateing someone new. If it makes you feel better try just being friends with your ex. I still talk to some of my ex's and we wind up have some good laughs and some good convos...
2006-11-13 14:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by bree_1384 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is normal. You also miss your friend too. It will all pass when you find the right one for you and he will be just the past.
2006-11-13 14:31:24 · answer #6 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that was indeed a strong relationship and I can imagine you not forgetting him. The reason for you situation is that you are not in another relationship yet to fill this void.
2006-11-13 14:35:51 · answer #7 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha, it took me 18 months to get over one guy that I only dated for 2 months! That's insane. I find the more you entertain it and beat yourself up, and daydream about what they COULD be and not what they ARE, you will prolong the process of getting over them. Start casually dating other people. Hang out with girlfriends, don't lie to yourself about who he really is.
Good luck, I feel your pain, God Bless!
Hopefully he leaves your mind sooner than what happened to me!
2006-11-13 14:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe you need to find someone else to take your mind off of him. You don't have to be in a relationship with them just someone to have fun with and make new good times.
2006-11-13 14:33:23 · answer #9 · answered by Sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than a year and u still feel like ****, u must be desperate. This is normal for ugly chicks.
2006-11-13 14:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋