I love my boyfriend and we constantly talk about a future together. He's been hurt by his former girlfriend, and sometimes I feel he's not totally over her dumping him(he doesn't feel comfortable talking about her, but can easily talk about his other exes). He hasn't heard a thing from her since, untill today. She send him a text message..she asked him how he was and that she was single again. He called her to tell her he was fine etc. He told me I shouldn't worry about it...and honestly, I can't help but being worried and jealous. Should I show my true feelings or should I keep it cool? Am I overreacting here and could my reaction cause more damage than good? Please help!!!
2006-11-13 06:29:21 · 10 answers · asked by African_Princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-11-13 06:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by goldenkitty187inc 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a step back and look at this situation:
He's damaged and you don't think he's recovered.
He can't talk about her.
He called his ex immediately when she popped up.
He makes you feel worried and jealous.
Do you think he's emotionally healthy enough to be in a new relationship? Constantly talking about the future doesn't mean a person has overcome their past.
2006-11-13 06:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let this continue on any further. There is reason why they broke up and they decided to break up so there should be no reason why they should still be communicating especially since he is with you now. I don't believe in what some people say as far as still being friends after breaking up. You either end the relationship completely or not. They decided to end it so there should be no more contact between the 2 of them. He needs to move on from the past and live in the present..which is with you and that is where is attention should be. Let him know how you feel and if he truly loves you and just wants to be with you, he will let go of her and not communicate with her.
2006-11-13 06:35:19 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ouch. Yeah, that is not good. The fact that she is telling him she's single is cause for alarm. But honestly, not much you can do. If he wants to be with her, he will be. Trust me, though, things will not end well if he does get together with her again....she'll just break his heart all over again.
2006-11-13 06:34:01 · answer #4 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Just as love is a risk, trust is a choice. Each time you decide not to snoop or pry, you make a choice to become a more loving, trusting partner." WORD GoldenKitty!
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2006-11-13 06:42:11 · answer #5 · answered by murkglider 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A LITTLE (again A LITTLE) jealousy is OK. It shows him that it matters to you that he is with you. It will make him feel loved and important to you.
Now, if you are really jealous (crazy jealous) it will make him think you don't trust him.
Good luck.
2006-11-13 06:40:14 · answer #6 · answered by Daddy of 5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion .......you're feelings are right...he's not over her ....but my advice is don't show your jelousy and concerns now so as not to make him aware that he might still have feelings for her, keep it quiet now ,BUT, if he contacts her again then you should really worry and only then you should tell him your concerns.......be clever, and don't give him the chance to fight with you so as to go back to her ,,,,,,and another advice try to keep him busy and happy these days..........good luck
2006-11-13 06:37:40 · answer #7 · answered by mays 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell him that you not comfortable with him taking with his ex. don't show your feelings yet give him some time.
2006-11-13 06:34:49 · answer #8 · answered by BEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would punch him in the mouth for answering her....smash his little text thingy.....find her number,name,address,and be waiting for her outside her work. and i would settle it there.......confront him and tell him if he contacts her again your through....he'll then have to choose and you'll see how much he cares 4 yu....
2006-11-13 06:34:25 · answer #9 · answered by tknallurchps 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so calm. I think you are underreacting. I don't think he has any reason to talk to her no matter what.
2006-11-13 06:32:33 · answer #10 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋