I am financially independent and have recently started graduate school; he plans on moving to the area next year to look for work before going to a nearby grad school and we want to live together. We have been dating for two and a half years and are in a happily committed relationship; we're both 22.
Money-wise, we can both afford this.
However, I really want my parent's approval on this and am not sure what they are going to think of my proposal. How can I bring up this topic, and get their approval?
2006-11-13 06:28:30 · 14 answers · asked by kiddo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Honesty...dont try and disguise the question...you're all adults and should be mature enough to discuss it...there is no reason, that I can see for them to say no...go for it and good luck!
2006-11-13 06:34:55 · answer #1 · answered by Elle :) 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know you said that you wanted their approval but sometimes parents just do not see your side. If you were to bring this up to them and they said no then would you listen to them? I hope not, because you are 22 and have a right as an adult to make your own decisions. Parents sometimes feel that keeping their children from doing things that they believe will be wrong or destructive is a good thing, and good parenting. However you are now an adult and you can make your own decisions. If I was you I would just bring up the subject, and see what their reaction is. You know you will not go through life always having your parent's approval, it's life. You need to do what you want and what you feel is right. I hope everything works out for you and your boyfriend, and I hope that your parent's will be understanding.
Good Luck To You :)
2006-11-13 07:10:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't see your parent's not approving but if it's really that important to you and they don't approve, you might just have to make do. I suggest you submit this plan to them over a nice dinner at your house or even better, a restaurant, neutral territory. Explain your reasoning and that you and _______ have been together for 2 1/2 years and you think this is the next step in your relationship and both of your lives. They'll probably support you if they've supported the relationship for this long already.
2006-11-13 06:33:20 · answer #3 · answered by snowbaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should be happy that there is a guy you can live with and feel safe with - that isnt going to want you for anything else... any more anywayz : ) The thing is, do you really want to lose a best friend over this? Because your parents will always love you, and there will be other silly things you do in the future that they may or may not be dissapointed in.. I say go for it! You dont need there rent money after the first year anyway if you can support yourself in the first year. Tell them during your next coming home break. Say "you know what, I lived with a girl, and she wasnt very nice, *males name* was kind enough to help me out, and Ive never felt safer, been happier, and more school focused then living with him"
2016-03-28 04:25:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have a plan. Explain how the bills are gonna get paid and how the financial arrangements are gonna be. All this makes it sound like you have thought it all out and mature. Just be sure your bf has a job first before you actually move in together. That way, your parents wont think you are gonna be covering him and therefore think less of him.
2006-11-13 06:32:27 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need approval if you are 22. If you want approval because you think its the right thing to do, then do it, but be prepared for them to answer in a way you don't want them to. Pretend to tell them and go over what you say and what they may say, and then when the time is right to say something to them you will have all the bases covered.
2006-11-13 06:35:07 · answer #6 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are old enough to make your decision. We do not always get our parents approval on all we do, but if you feel the two of you will do fine living together then just do what you feel is best. If your parents say NO.. will you still do it? Ask yourself that question.. is he important enough to you to move in without your parents approval. I think you are old enough to make this decision.
2006-11-13 06:44:30 · answer #7 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 22 yrs old, you need to make your own decisions on what you feel is right for you. You shouldnt be 22 yrs old asking about moving in. If you feel like this would be good for the both of you, then go with your gut. You are a grown woman and to be a grown woman, you need to be able to make your own decisions and tell your parents this also.
2006-11-13 06:32:01 · answer #8 · answered by yagurlbubblez 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Bring it up, be mature and matter-of-fact about it....no crying or whining if you don't hear what you want.... then tell them you want their blessing. Be prepared if they don't give it to make your own decision. You're an adult and it seems you've thought this out. Another idea....do you plan on marrying this guy anytime soon? Just a thought. Good Luck!
2006-11-13 06:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by Ducky S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Granted you are old enough...if your parents are religious and disapprove, respect their opinion. They are your parents and family should come before a BF, just be prepared for that. Personally, I strongly believe you should get married first.
2006-11-13 07:58:06 · answer #10 · answered by Yokihana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋