hi me and my girlfriend have been together for about 1 month now but recently i have been getting feelings like im going to lose her or something is going to happen to her iuno why but can anyone help me on whyy im tihnking such foolish things because i dont understand whyy im thinking this stuff up.. thanks alot
2006-11-13 06:26:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why you feel like you are going to lose her is because you have feelings for her and you fear losing her, you feel that way because you see that you are not ready to let her go. I think you should let her know how you feel because communication is the best. trust me i speek out of expreince with my man.
2006-11-13 06:32:07 · answer #1 · answered by mrsmoozab 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to be blunt, hope you can understand.
1) you are way too emotionally comitted to this girl already... If you were not, you wouldn't be so concerned with losing her or not..
2) for future reference: there is physical comitment, spending time together getting to know each other and/or just spending casual time together. And emotional comitment, the feelings you have for another person.
3) do not comit you emotions to anyone until you have spent a reasonable amount of time with them and feel strongly they can be trusted with them.. and even then, only a little at a time.. I would not recommend even thinking about emotional comitment until the 3 to 6 month mark...
4) If you feel like you will "lose her" you are probably correct... you should go with your feelings always... If you want, you can ask her what's going on.. I'm assuming her actions have made you think this... get some input and ask questions about it here... You will get some really great answers.
- good luck.
2006-11-13 06:35:35 · answer #2 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're becoming insecrure right now, so you should relax and think about what you're saying. I take it this is your first or perhaps second relationship, so it's natural to comtemplate so many things. However, you shouldn't be thinking too much if it's just all in your head. Girls know when a guy is a insecure which is low self esteem, and which leads to break up. If there is something wrong with her then talk to her otherwise its all in your head.
2006-11-13 06:33:36 · answer #3 · answered by Steven Fenix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful!!! Nothing makes a girl more uncomfortable in a relationship than a guy who thinks he is going to lose her. It makes her feel like you don't trust her.
The best move would honestly be to not express the feeling you are having; just let her know you like her and if she reciprocates, she'll stay. Don't mention the "I feel like I'm going to lose you" feeling, it'll only make her feel bad or worse, repelled.
2006-11-13 06:30:30 · answer #4 · answered by kiddo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you say you are going do loose her to mean as in just the relationship or do you feel like something bad is going to happen to her? If its the first one then just make sure you are doing everything you can to make her happy, treat her like you would like to be treated. But what ever you do don't smother her because you feel insecure, that will surly run her off
2006-11-13 06:34:58 · answer #5 · answered by outta my mind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone worries about losing someone they really care about. It is perfectly normal to have passing thoughts like this. But if you become tortured by these thoughts, then you need to talk to a therapist as it really becomes a whole new issue, and you might need anti-anxiety drugs.
2006-11-13 06:30:25 · answer #6 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the line in the song "somethin's gotta go wrong cuz I've been feelin' too damn good"
Stop projecting negativity...you'll end up being your own worst enemy...enjoy the relationship for what it is...as long as it lasts...
2006-11-13 06:30:22 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you know she loves you whats the matter....you have to have some security in yourself........I hope you dont start telling her that because you know sometimes what you say or think happens.....so good luck and be more confident....☺☻
2006-11-13 06:29:24 · answer #8 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your thinking those because of the fact those happens to each couple they simply final for a month except your woman incredibly loves you. additionally she would desire to brake up with you because of the fact shes bored with you..that's a threat.
2016-10-22 00:42:24 · answer #9 · answered by turrill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you have been doing things behind her back! or it could be that you are starting to love her and you dont want to loose her!!
2006-11-13 06:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by chicaguanajuatence 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋