there is this guy i like but he lives far away in denver and i live in georgia. he is way older than me and we really like each other. we have been talking on the computer for a month now and i find it very safe { i'm younger than 18 } { he's older than 20 } but he wants to see me and want to come to georgia to meet me. i'm so scared to meet him, i have no clue what will happen what should i do?
2006-11-13 06:25:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I met my boyfriend the same way.. but we were both the same age and i trusted him. We met up and have been together for 6 monthes now! But it's probably not safe to meet him unless you friends first of all, and i would talk to him on the phone first. Don't trust people until you at least talk to them on the phone and know them first. If your parents and frinds don't know this could very dangerous. If you really really really like him I recommend waiting longer If he really likes you he will wait until your older and try to get closer. He should meet you don't go to meet him.
2006-11-13 06:30:08 · answer #1 · answered by LIZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is NOT MEET HIM! I understand that you are young, but don't you watch the news, 60 Minutes etc. What you are doing is EXTREEMLY dangerous. No matter what this guy has told you chances are 1/2 of it is lies. He is also too old for you. Think about it. What man wants to date a high school girl? It would be like you wanting to date a 6th grader.
If he really wants to meet you and he is on the up and up then he would have no problem staying in a hotel and getting to know you with your parents present. Yes, I can hear you saying "no way" all the way in Illinois. BUT, you need to be safe. The only way to do that (other than not meeting him) would be to be with your parents the entire time you are with this man. Don't forget he is not a "boy" he is a grown man. A man that is way too old for you at this point in your life.
2006-11-13 14:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by Debbie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take a friend with me 2 meet up with me because he could be a different person completely also if u take a friend the first time and u make good friends then u can meet up again and maybe start seeing each other
2006-11-13 14:30:37 · answer #3 · answered by froggerty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is going to sound terribly cliche, but don't do it. First of all a long distance relationship wouln't really work out. If you're under 18 how will you visit him?? Also, he's over 20 years old...his interest in you is ILLEGAL! Think about it this way if one of your guy friends let's say 16 years old wanted to date a 11 year old would you think that's okay? There's obviously something wrong with him if he can't find someone his own age. If this is still something you wish to pursue...wait to meet him when you turn 18. If he's not willing to wait he's not worth your time. I'm just concerned please be very careful. There are a lot of very sick people in this world and you have to do your part to protect yourself from them. Please PLEASE PLEASE...just think about this before you go ahead with anything. I don't mean to nag but I really don't think it's a good idea....if you decide to meet him before you're 18 make sure you're in a public place with FRIENDS...don't go anywhere alone with him. Please be SAFE!
2006-11-13 14:34:42 · answer #4 · answered by jill_valentine_otaku 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you didn't see him before just talking on the computer if so ; you don't have to be scared ask your friends about what to do tell your parents about this .
meet this guy in a puplic area if you are really scared .
be cool
good luck
2006-11-13 14:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by Aaron H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i personally think that u shouldn't meet him as yet... afterall u only know each other for a month.
people should always invest in time before moving ahead... a quick step may result in failure... so however tempting it may be they have got to decide for themselves what exactly it is that they want...
at the end of the day it is up to u to decide. so make the best of it!
2006-11-13 14:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by Pr1Nc3$$ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not meet him, you never know somone 100 % especially over the net... he will make himself seem safe to be around but you never know, honey be on the safe side and dont go meets him, if you are going to do it anyway regardless of everyones advice i would go in a public place and not by myself either go with friends, and dont leave with him you never know what he could be capable of!!
~CHEERS!!~
2006-11-13 14:31:42 · answer #7 · answered by Romy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should meet him with friends in a public place
2006-11-13 14:28:11 · answer #8 · answered by hanumistee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U NEED TO TELL YO MOMMA AND QUIT PLAYING AROUND
2006-11-13 14:28:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋