Do you go as casual as possible, or do you not even date because of all the hassle? WE all know, as single parents, that we probably WILL hook up again, but why am I so apathetic towards the whole thing? Too busy with work and the kids? Too soon after the divorce? Combination of all things? I WANT to meet someone, but I'm just so tired.
2006-11-13 06:25:29 · 10 answers · asked by Shadow 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want to put a spin on this and show you two angles. Having been a single parent twice in my lifetime....
First...the kids are just WAY more important....and a lot of women will demand your attention away from them. So, unless you're in love with the person, it's best (I've found) to keep your dating and your parenting COMPLETELY separate.
On the other side of this coin, my ex husband dated EVERYTHING that walked. And introduced them to our children. ALL OF THEM!! My kids were so confused about who he was humping and dumping, they lost focus of what was going on. One Christmas, my ex had 7 YES SEVEN women giving presents to my boys. Ughh....and then I had to clean up all the mess....answer all their questions....try to explain that they're dad was just looking for someone special....ect.
So, be tired. Enjoy the kiddies. You'll fall in love again. You're a wonderful guy who is important to a lot of people. Including me.
2006-11-13 08:54:38 · answer #1 · answered by DoubleD 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a combination of all the things you listed. I have been single now for 2 years and I have no interest in going on a date. I see it as way too much work. You get all fixed up, find a sitter for the kiddos, meet the guy at the agreed upon location, and then do this sort of dating ritual thing where you have to present a nearly perfect persona in the hopes of getting a phone call for round 2. I also have been out of the dating circuit since I was 18, now I am in my 30's, and the thought of dating in 2006 scares the heck out of me. I don't know any of the rules, clues, do's and dont's or anything else like that.
I know that I want to find Mr. Right after I dumped Mr. Wrong, but I don't even want to try right now. I have my kids to get raised, then I will think about those things. I'm not even looking.
I think what I can tell you is that you will know when the time is right to try again. GL
2006-11-13 14:36:33 · answer #2 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im 23 and a single mom (and have been separated since March and now divorced since September) and I would love to have a boyfriend but I agree the whole dating thing doesnt seem as fun and exciting as I expected it to be. I work full-time, go to school part-time, and then dont get a baby-sitter too often. I feel its almost a hassle to do the dating thing bc its more work and that the guys I have dated so far worth not even worth the effort. Secondly, there is the whole fact of whether or not they will be scared off bc I have a kid, which kind of makes me apprehensive too. (I always hear about the whole stigma that many guys dont want someone who already has a kid...for whatever reasoning they use to justify it like im trying to find a replacement dad, its more baggage, or whatever bs their silly lil minds come up with)...I would love to meet someone but as for now Im just trying to let it go and just be content with what I already do have. Im sure once the right one comes along though, Ill be able to find the time for him:)...Good luck and take care:)
2006-11-13 14:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I'm a single parent. Have been for about 11 years. I date. I'm seeing someone now. I have found out that i do sometimes go for long periods of not dating because it is a hassle between work and the kid, but everything can't be easy or everyone would do it. It might be just to soon for you. Eventually i think you will want too. Good Luck
2006-11-13 14:33:07 · answer #4 · answered by happy_cute_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I'm not a single parent and I'm too tired.. the whole thing can be a major drag sometimes. I guess if you really want it, you have to make the effort which is probably the reason that most people settle for a convenient relationship
2006-11-13 18:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a combination of things shadow, sometimes I really am in the mood to go out, and other times I feel the exact same way!
2006-11-13 15:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by Karen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't date cuz of all the hassle...but i will be forced to though...don't want to end up old and lonely
2006-11-13 14:44:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is a pain in the h***
2006-11-13 14:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a problem with me....and whats important is as long that they love my son...thats the best part of me being in a relationship!!!
2006-11-13 14:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋