What's the one thing you look for most in your future husband / wife?
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I think marriage is all about commitment and I look for religous views firsthand. Please don't comment on my answers. Just tell me your answers.
2006-11-13 06:20:39 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Commitment!
2006-11-13 06:22:57 · answer #1 · answered by lookn2cjc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that marriage is about commitment. It does not necessarily need compatibility, but it does help. When a couple is committed to one another, they are more willing to work things out because they either have to work it out and get along, or they will be miserable.
So, while I did look for compatibility in my husband, I also wanted to make sure i was with someone that both of us would be committed to working things out.
2006-11-13 14:24:43 · answer #2 · answered by Searcher 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My answer is for typical marriages without any form of abuse.
I believe commitment. Most people when they get married, they like the person they get married to. They feel love and bliss and passion.
All too soon the "newness" wears off. Combined with a new ability to get angry with this person, they feel that they have fallen out of love.
I believe that the best marriages are the ones who stay committed to each other and overcome the "end of the newlywed stage"
2006-11-13 14:48:20 · answer #3 · answered by suthrndaysi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Commitment!
2006-11-13 14:25:09 · answer #4 · answered by Damian 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Commitment is the only thing that matters. Compatibility will change over the years, because people change over the years. Religion has nothing to do with this, however. Religious people get just as many divorces as anyone else.
In fact, atheists/agnostics have the lowest divorce rate per capita, out of everyone.
2006-11-13 14:26:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Commitment is what keeps a marriage last but compatibility is what allows it to start in the first place
2006-11-13 14:31:32 · answer #6 · answered by Gamla Joe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think compatibility is best for the overall well being of the relationship.
I was commited once, but the relationship turned sour. He was commited and wouldn't let me end it. He became a stalker and eventually tried to kidnap me.
Commitment can become ugly, but compatibility is always beautiful.
2006-11-13 14:26:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both. However, if it gets to the point where you're no longer compatible in any way, then the committment will no longer be there in anything but words.
Sometimes things don't work out the way you intended. Cheating and abuse are two of the reasons why.
I'm sorry, you may not like it that I left my abusive cheating husband but you can bite my big fat butt because I wasn't going to stay with him, married by a Minister or not.
I'm remarried and much happier.
2006-11-13 14:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
commitment for there are other things involved which two different people must work out. without the commitment to each other and the willingness to each respect the other persons views the marriage is doomed from the start.
2006-11-13 14:39:54 · answer #9 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commitment. You can be compatible with a number of different people, but when it comes to marriage it's all about committing yourself to one.
2006-11-13 14:35:02 · answer #10 · answered by passerby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋