First time sex?

Question

Hi Everyone

I am 28 yr old Indian male and my wife is 25. We got married recently, and both of us are virgins, and are finding it hard to have sex.

Everytime I try to enter her - I end up not being able to go in much. When I use my fingers - one finger easily goes in deep, but two fingers hurt her :(. I can feel something hard (pubic bone ? ) above my fingers (my palm facing up) - and it seems to block anything else from going in.

I have no idea where to look for information or how to get help. :(

SP

Answer 1

ask your doctor to recommend a sex expert

Answer 2

Look Buddy,
just don't concentrate on penetration, Thats the mistake we Indians do, spend maximun time in lubricating her pussy, If required just lick the clit till she cums out, do it for almost half an hour, keep licking don't stop, The idea is to make the hole more and more lubricative. After she finishes one cycle of ejection, Then try to hold ur dick hard, don't let it go down, slowly penetrate, Once it goes in completely , then start the true and fro motion at ur ease, I'am sure u both will reach a wonderfull time.
Concentrate more on her *** than urs.

Answer 3

Well it will hurt the first time. If she is of a small frame then she may not have that much room to fit in your package. Buy her a dildo to loosen her up a little and when she can handle that then she will be able to handle you. Also tell her to talk to her gynacologist about this.

*** Contrary to many beliefs jarring a womans ovaries is not a TURN ON!!

Answer 4

I would have her talk to her doctor if it causing that much pain. But if that checks out, I would recommend getting some K-Y, or something like it. Sometimes being nervous makes it difficult to create the right "atmosphere" for penetration. Go slow and careful, and above all try to help her RELAX!!!!!

Answer 5

The first time REALLY hurts. Has she bled from trying yet? (not a lot, just a little) If not, you haven't "popped" her yet.
IF you just can't do it. Go to the Gyno to see what can be done.

This is the EXACT reason NOT to wait till after marriage.
This happens when you buy the car BEFORE the test drive.

Answer 6

Maybe some lubricant would help when you try to enter her. Go slow, very slow. There should be no rush. If she still has problems, then maybe a trip to her doctor could give you some answers.

Answer 7

Have her see a doc and make sure everything is in working order and if there is reason for excessive pain...first sex is typically uncomfortable but not agonizing...

If doc says all is okay, then ask for suggestions to be able to consummate your marriage...perhaps she's very tense and needs to relax some...take your time...there's no rush...

Answer 8

well first of all of course it will hurt the first time for her. and second make sure what the source of the real problem is. is something wrong with her insides or are u two just hesitant and nervous about having sex?

Answer 9

I would like so much to tell you what to do but not on yahoo. But I can tell you to take your problem which should be a secret to sex behavior counselor. Another would be also to a marriage councelor as well.

Answer 10

There are good answers for this, but because of the obstruction question, it would be a good idea to see a ob-gyn doctor first.

Answer 11

you need lubrication (KY Jelly) and you need to go slowly. It's strange the first time but you do have to PUSH it in. It just won't slide in easily. If it's too difficult, she should see a doctor.