Only 30 and up please...where did you meet your spouse/signifigant other?

Question

I'm 32 years old and I think I may be looking in the wrong places. Most of the guys I meet are either already married, not ready to settle down or too young. I noticed that the older you get the harder it is to meet people so I am trying to get ideas on where to meet decent men. Men in their 30's are usually already taken so it is very frustrating trying to meet people that are honestly single. I just got out of a long term relationship a little over a year ago and I feel I am ready to have a steady guy friend now but its hard to even meet truly single guys in their 30's. Any ideas?

Answer 1

Online - we have been together for 5 years, have one child another on the way. I moved from Australia to Florida to marry him.

Forget the bad name it gets -if your smart about it, it works.

Answer 2

I'm only 27 but I met my Guy who is 39....four-wheeling. It is a place with mostly all men, hardly any women and he was actually tired of bad relationships and not looking for any woman, that's why he hung out there. I just got lucky and found him. I know you are thinking he is probably a big red-neck and you may not want that type of guy, but actually he does do rock climbing in a big 4 wheel drive truck, but he also is owner of two business and is very business like when need be. We can get dirty and play in the woods or get dressed up nice and go to a great dinner or a show in Vegas.

Point is go somewhere that you might think i guy may be trying to go to get away, like 4- wheeling, batting cages, golf course, or maybe even Home Depot. They are tired of the same things we are tired of. Bad relationships, being treated sh**y or what ever it may be. He wanted a good woman but had given up looking because the last few he dated he met in bars or work ( and the co-worker thing hardly ever works out). Don't give up hope. Mr right is out there. I truly believe that now. Age does not matter also in my opinion. I have mostly dated younger guys...they really don't know how to treat a lady. I am the first younger girl my man has dated and I work hard to please him. Cooking, Cleaning, and helping with the business.

I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 3

I agree, I also think the older we get the more difficult it is to meet people.

I think it's tough to find anyone over 30 who hasn't been "married" or doesn't have "children". But you shouldn't automatically disqualify them because of it. My husband was divorced, had three kids and was 36 when we met. We met at work. We dated for 4 1/2 years, and have been happily married for the past 28 years. So it can and does happen, there are still some "good guys" out there!

Not to offend anyone who has, but I wouldn't look for a guy in a "bar". Where you work is often a place to meet someone. If you don't have the opportunity to meet anyone at work, (or if you think it's a bad idea), you should try going to the gym. There are a lot of nice guys who "work out".

If you are interested in any sports, you could "hang out" with like-minded people and maybe meet someone there. I have friends who have met people at church (you'd be surprised).

Although we aren't looking, we meet a lot of nice people during our "animal rescue" work. You could try "volunteering" somewhere locally. Often people who are involved in volunteering are nice guys.

I hope these ideas help a bit, don't give up. Good luck!

Answer 4

Sometimes your perfect mate is a friend you have known for a long time(single!!) meaning more than 3 years and have never thought of that person in a romantic way because they have always been just a friend. My husband was the best man in my 1st wedding and I have known him since I was 17 (now i am 45) but never gave him another thought even though we were friends always. When I got divorced we talked alot on the phone and after 10 months we went on a date. The rest is history. We have been married 10 years and we are still best friends. I guess my best answer is someone you already know but never considered. Good Luck and don't rush into anything.Also worry about yourself right now. You must be confident and happy and self supporting before you can share that with someone else. NEVER NEED SOMEONE-- WANT THEM!

Answer 5

I met mine at work, 20+ years ago. We were friends for a long time before it became more. It didn't work out for us, because I think neither of us were ready for the kind of relationship ours could be.
Keep those lines of communication open - just because timing is bad at one point doesn't mean it won't be good sometime down the road. After he divorced the mother of his kids, he called me up out of the blue. We've been together ever since (2 and a half years).

However... I have to say, if you just got out of a long-term relationship a little over a year ago, I doubt that you're truly ready for a new relationship. Give yourself more time to heal. Do things just for yourself. Focus on YOU. The "right" new guy will come along when you least expect it - I don't believe in coincidence.

Answer 6

Hi. I'm 36 and after a slew of failed relationships and broken engagments and one truly gutt-wrenching broken heart, I just about decided to give it up and "have fun" instead. And for the past year that's exactly what I was doing! However, I had to admit it wasn't as satisfying as having someone "steady" in my life - that one person who would always be there for me. But five weeks ago, out of nowhere, bam!, there he was "the one".
I had gone to a cabaret with my girlfriends, not expecting to find someone or even thinking along those lines. I remember that I was dressed "cute" but not nearly as I would had been if I was on the prowl. I was dressed to have a good time with my girls, nothing more. And this guy asked me to dance I was like "sure". We dance the night away and I had so much fun, still not thinking anything about "him" other than the fun time we were having. But then, as I was leaving, there was this guy sitting at a table, and as I passed him I put my hand on his shoulder and he kind of jumped and grabbed my arm and pulled me closer to him. We talked a brief moment and he asked for my number, we went out 3 days later and today, my boyfriend, and I are very happy. He told me later that when I put my hand on him he felt a "jolt" of electricity go throw him all the way down to his feet - I don't know what possessed me to touch him and he didn't even see me coming, it must have been simply "meant to be". The point I'm making is this: When it's time it will happen, when he's the one, you'll know it. I used to HATE it when people (who always seemed happy and in love) would tell me that....but it's so true. Another key thing is that I wasn't looking for it! I think when you stop looking, that is when you find what you were looking for. My boyfriend told me (when I said I couldn't believe I could be this happy again) that "we were both lost, looking for each other, and now we're found". True love is out there, if it happened for me, when I never thought it would, it will happen for you.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Met mine at church, and still going strong after 21 years. If you find a place of worship that you're comfortable in, the people that go there will likely share your core values. Also, there's sort of a built-in support and referral system. Many churches/synagogues have singles groups, too.

Answer 8

I met the man of my dreams in a resturant. Now that right man is going to come at the right time, do not rush things and get caught up like most ladies. The bible says that a man that finds a wife finds a good thing.

Answer 9

Dear "hopeless",

I mean your feeling hopeless not that it is hopeless.
My live in boyfriend and I met last year on True.com.
Hes a native of Florida and I was in Iowa, 1300 miles apart
We flew back and forth for 6 months then he moved me to be with him. So January will be 1 1/2 years we've been together.
Unfortunately we are not married yet but do live together.
P.S. STAY AWAY FROM MYSPACE.COM-- its had alot of
bad publicity on the news.


Mischeviousqueen

Answer 10

University/college