21 and 41, same views on life, what we want from a relationship, about family, friends, trust... etc. Could a relationship like this work out well?
2006-11-13 06:06:05 · 8 answers · asked by mk2004 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hard to say, I hope so. I'm 23, and would like to date an older man.
I think a major factor here is our maturity. Can we live on our own, rely on ourselves, take care of things like insurance and oil changes, etc? Do we know where we stand politically and what we believe in? If we are coming straight from mommy & daddy's house, I think there'll be a problem.
Give it a shot.. if you two are up for trying to make this work. It will be very different than dating a 20-something-yr-old, but you may like it. It really depends on the people involved, and I don't know enough about you two to give my full opinion.
2006-11-13 06:12:04 · answer #1 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really in that age gap it's kind of a sad end.The one that is 20 years the senior will become a burden for the younger one in the end.My mother met a man when she was 41 he was 25, she had her family already, so all they had was each other.We left the relationship alone,but now she has passed away,and he is too old to start a-new.He's 52 and in ill health. It isn't fair, if it's a long term courtship.If you are out to get knowledge from dating, give it a try.Remember the older one knows what to say and when to say it.
2006-11-13 14:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion no...
A guy that is 41 trying to date someone who is 21 has problems or some kind of sexual perversion. Might be ok in the beginning, but I wouldn't count on it lasting too long. What are you going to do when you are 31 (peak of sexuality) and he is 51?
2006-11-13 14:11:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe..but chances are higher he's in mid life crisis and wants a 'sweet young thing' to help him feel younger and attractive and show off to his friends...
He's old enough to be your father...you're just figuring out what you want out of life and a career, and he's been in his (hopefully) for years, and is planning for retirement...life experiences are different...things in common are likely different...physical activity level is probably different...you may want kids, and if he had one now he'd be in his 60s when it was grown...
Chances are, it's more an ego boost for him than anything else...and she gets the security and "father figure" type of an older man...
But if that's what you both want...then go for it...it'll either work or not...just like any other relationship...
2006-11-13 14:10:29 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you genuinely love each other and the younger of the pair is of legal age, then how well or how long the relationship works is totally up to the two of you.
2006-11-13 14:13:06 · answer #5 · answered by grizzly_r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it could. You seem to have thought through all the issues important to both of you.
2006-11-13 14:10:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
20 years is pretty big, when your 40 he'll be 60 - your still gonna be yearning for his wrinkled pecker?
2006-11-13 14:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by 10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
age is just a #
2006-11-13 14:12:42 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ I love you babe ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋