Am I the only one that think it's not moral? What are your thoughts?
2006-11-13 06:05:40 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Controversey, huh? I look at morality from a religious standpoint and my morals go for everyone, whether they know them or not, whether they obey them or not. It's your choice, but everyone's influenced by everyone else's choices!
2006-11-13 06:16:58 · update #1
I think that it is wrong as well. I disagree with Bill above, I'm not brainwashed, I have an opinion. There is a difference, but thanks for being so close minded.
2006-11-13 06:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
When I was a young kid, caught up in Christianity (before I learned to ask questions, or had experienced life and relationships), I agreed with you.
But, having lived with my fiancee for the last year, I would never, NEVER advise a young couple not to share a home before entering into marriage. When you only see someone a few hours, every other day or so..or even every day, you are missing out on so many parts of that person. You don't have the opportunity to witness those idiosyncrasies that can make or break a relationship. You don't get the chance to learn their habits that may annoy you, the things that may get on your nerves. When you only see someone on 'dates' or romantic evenings, you only see the best. And they only see your best. It's amazing how many relationships cannot stand the test of human habits. Whether or not your relationship is that weak, is something that should be learned *before* heading to the altar. Otherwise, you have a 50% divorce rate.
By the way, why is it that people think that if you have sex before marriage, it leaves no reason to get married? If you are getting married, simply so that you can have sex..well, quite frankly, you shouldn't be getting married. Sex is a beautiful part of a healthy relationship, wedded or not. Still, sharing your life with someone is about so much more than that. Besides, what if you reach your wedding night, and find that you are completely sexually incompatible. Now *there's* an awkward time to discover that.
May I add, that if you're going to look at it as being against good Christian values, I certainly hope you support slavery, view marriage after divorce as a hell-worthy tresspass, don't have a problem with certain instances of incest, and under no circumstances eat lobster, shellfish or pork ..because that's what the Bible preaches.
2006-11-13 06:26:13 · answer #2 · answered by BrightEyedBlasphemer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thoughts are that it is hard to define morality for every person in society. What one person thinks is moral is immoral to another, and sometimes there is overall agreement. In the case of two people living together without being married is harmful to no one. However, murdering someone is harmful to someone. As a society, we define morality in terms of whether others are harmed or not, at least most of the time.
2006-11-13 06:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by retorik75 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it immoral? Does not living together prevent you from having sex or doing anything else that you could do while living together? It doesn't matter whether you live under the same roof or not from a moral standpoint. Its a good way to get to know each other better before you make a serious commitment to each other.
2006-11-13 06:09:34 · answer #4 · answered by Jason S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on your definition of moral.
If you are looking at moral from a religious perspective, then no...obviously it's not.
However, if you are looking at the more broad definition of moral "right and wrong", then I believe as long as you are not hurting yourself or others, it's completely moral.
In fact, I recommend living with the person before you get married. I know TOO many people who didn't live with their husband/wife or have premarital sex with them. Once they got married, their whole relationship changed, and not for the good. 5 of the 7 couples were divorce within 2 years. The other 2 are constantly separating, fighting, etc. and we give them less than a year.
It's sad, but unfortunately, I think it's the best way to get to know someone. My husband and I lived together for 3 years before we got married. Things have been pretty much perfect (except for the normal experiences). I was able to grow accustomed to all his little quirks, and vice versa. We were able to adapt to each other BEFORE we put the stress of marriage and children into the mix.
2006-11-13 06:10:04 · answer #5 · answered by Heck if I know! 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I, for one, would never purchase a vehicle without taking it for a test drive....
this is someone you plan to spend the rest of your life with. I would think that living together prior to marrriage would be an intelligent choice. That way, you dont have to go through a divorce later on when it doesnt work out.
Of course, we all know how sactimonious marriage is to Christians.....
2006-11-13 06:13:05 · answer #6 · answered by YDoncha_Blowme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To each his own. Personally I wouldn't go for it but some people feel confident enough in themselves and the other to do so. To many marriage has a very significant meaning whilst to others it is a status of legal affairs. For some it lies in between. I don't think it's immoral but it probably would be best to be married first.
2006-11-13 06:11:17 · answer #7 · answered by Bloody Wing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does your morality have to do with other people? If you think it is not moral, then don't do it. Other people have different opinions and and thoughts then you, let them get on with there life and you get on with yours. Here's something... what if someone was married in a church before god but never got the paper work to make it legal, would they be married, would they be moral to you? Or is it the government paper that makes it moral and not the church service? If you have enough dogma, you will soon sink in it.
2006-11-13 06:09:14 · answer #8 · answered by thoor_ballylee 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There is no "moral" or "immoral" when it comes to choosing what to do with one's own person.
As far as living together outside of marriage: For a woman, it's just plain not smart. It's the same as putting yourself on the "Clearance Rack." Real men only appreciate what they have to work for.
2006-11-13 06:09:07 · answer #9 · answered by georgia b 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Living together is not a sin. Who are you hurting? Also, if people are against premarital sex, it is possible to live together without having sex. What is the immoral part of THAT? People live together before marriage to learn about each other. This way, then enter--or don't enter--marriage based on informed thought. You aren't giving any argument for your side.
Opposingly, you don't have to live together or even spend the night together to have sex. It's not like sex can only occur after sunset.
2006-11-13 06:09:37 · answer #10 · answered by Esma 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why? How does having a piece of paper make something "moral", in your humble opinion?
My parents lived together for over 30 years, were only separted when my father died, and raised 5 children. We have always had jobs, never claimed benefits, and never been in trouble with the police.
So, be honest, what is your opinion of my parents? What makes you better than them?
2006-11-13 06:09:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋