help i'm so confused?

Question

i met a really nice guy we met up for a drink and got very drunk and ended up havin sex. i can't really remember alot about it! i remember he was very nice to me. the mornin after was fine but i just don't know how i feel about it now. i don't regret it but what does he think of me what do u think? can we still be friends? HELP

he says he wouldn't say no to meetin up again! what does that meen

Answer 1

Sounds like you are feeling really rather insecure about yourself. It's not a crime to have sex on a first date but the downside to it is the sort of confused feelings you seem to be going through. The reason for this may be that it was just too early to tell whether this guy really liked you (or indeed, whether you liked him) and now you are having to wait and see. However, the decision about whether you see each other again is half yours and half his, if you both want to see each other you will, if you don't you won't. On one hand you are saying you don't know how you feel about having slept with this guy and on the other you are saying that you don't regret it ... so that kind of indicates that you do know how you feel! It is important that you clarify for yourself how you feel about him. Do you want to see him again? If the answer is yes, you can either wait for him to approach you, or you can approach him first. It is not unusual for people to jump into bed with each other very quickly, it sounds a bit like you might not be entirely comfortable with your behaviour because perhaps you think he won't like or respect you for it. You can't know how he feels about you without approaching him in some way and initiating communication ... you won't have to ask him how he feels, that should become apparent by whether you get together again and you will be able to tell how much he likes you by how he treats you from now on in. Speculating on the minimal information you seem to have might just drive you a bit bonkers and certainly won't get you any reliable answers. Finally, I would say of course you can become friends with this guy, if he wants to become a friend of yours too ...

Answer 2

did you both get drunk? how can he be a "really nice guy" if he got drunk with you, or, if he didnt, he should've known better than to take advantage of you in your drunken state. what you both did was irresponsible, i think perhaps this should be your first port of call. Have you checked if you're pregnant? Is this how you want to bring a kid into the world, on a drunken one night stand? what if he is an absolute a$s?? i know someone who lives round the corner who never knew her real dad, her mum made the mistake of having one such a one night stand, the guy denied her pregnancy saying "is it mine"...and then disappeared off the face of the earth. this lady who was the result of it all, has never known what its like to have a dad...she has some ongoing emotional issues because of it. don't be selfish, think beyond a few minutes of physical pleasure, to what could happen if you had kids "accidently"...kids are for life, just like puppies aint only for Christmas, kids are not just there for good times, they come with a shitload of responsibility, and at the looks of how you're going honey, you're gonna need some practise with yours first before you try to teach little ones about it.
you're thinking of being friends with this guy, but i'd say a good match is when at least ONE of you can be responsible. i know you probably feel like i'm judging you, i dont know you, and i'm not wagging a finger at you for enjoyment's sake, i coulda ignored you question but i felt that if you asked, perhaps you should just hear me out when i say things like it is

Answer 3

You are asking questions that no one can answer apart from the bloke you slept with so why don't you ask him. Surely you deserve to know if you have doubts about anything that happened that night. It will put your mind at ease and you can go from there. What I would say though is why does it matter what he thinks of you when he did exactly the same thing as you did, is it different because he is a fella, i don't think so.

Answer 4

see thats a tough situation cause now you dont know if he just wants to meet up with you to get laid again or if he is really interested i would hang out with him but dont do the same thing so that way you can see if he really just wants to get to know you and if he wants to hang out again after that great but just hold off on the sex for a while until you find out if he wants to just use you

Answer 5

I met my fiance the same way, however, it could go the other way and he may look down at you for consenting to sex on a first date. You never really know with guys, especially when you don't really know them.

Answer 6

it sounds like he enjoyed it and wants more, so you need to ask yourself what you want. Do you want more? do you want more just to be fun or do you want it to lead anywhere? find out what you want and take it from there. As for how you feel about it, did you enjoy it? If you can't remember it might be worth trying again without so much alcohol and see how you feel then!

Answer 7

communication is key. even if it was just a one night stand, it'd be better to just talk about it and find out where to go with it now (even if the answer is nowhere). Better to know for sure and not have to wonder.

Answer 8

You had a one night stand. Well perhaps he doesn't feel anything cos its normal practice for him. Why not just front him and ask?

Answer 9

Meet up again, but this time dont go the distance and see how he reacts and how you feel then.

Answer 10

Did you get a phone number? Give him a call see if he wants another date.