Hi, I know it's hard to believe, but I married a man who hated my dog. Our compromise was her living down the hill at my mother-in-law's but she doesnt' take care of my dog. Maya had surgery earlier this summer and MIL didn't care for her properly during recovery and now she limps. I took her to the vet today and he put her back on medication.... I went down to my MIL's and got her bed, her food and her toys and brought her home. My husband came in and I said, "she's staying, no arguing, divorce me because she is my dog and I will not let her suffer because someone else doesn't love her." My husband just left saying he was too mad to talk about it. This has been a HUGE issue with us and it won't go away. I love this dog, we have been through everything and she was with me before he was! I think it might split us my marriage! I can't believe it, but I'm NOT going to ignore my dog anymore. Oh lord, help. Am I an idiot?
2006-11-13 06:00:18 · 25 answers · asked by dawn_maya 1 in Pets ➔ Dogs
Sounds to me like your dog is more deserving of your attention. Why on earth did he want to marry you if you had a dog he didn't like? He should have known better (and so should you - no offense). If my wife didn't like my dog, I would not have continued dating her, much less ask her to marry me.
Anyway, sounds like you have to chose between your husband or your dog. Tough one. I wouldn't blame you for chosing the dog, but you made a commitment to your husband as well (and he to you). I think you owe it to yourself, your dog and your husband to come to some sort of compromise to keep your marriage, and your dog intact.
I wish you good luck.
2006-11-13 06:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by jeepdrivr 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋
No,you are not an idiot. He knew you had a dog before he married you. Keep the dog. He obviously doesn't care about your feelings all that much or else he would be more accepting of your needs. What if you get pregnant and he wants a boy and it turns out to be a girl? Will he want to get rid of her, too? A little food for thought. Good luck.
2006-11-13 06:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by HDB 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Follow your gut. Don't listen to the person above me. Loving that dog is what makes you a kind-hearted, compassionate human being. If your husband cannot see that, then he cannot see YOU. He is blinded by his own selfishness. She needs you and you need her. She gives you unconditional love and your husband should do the same. Personally, any man that has no compassion for animals, especially companion animals, is not a man. You deserve someone who loves you and everything about you, including your love for your pet. It's not like he is going to die from an asthma attack if you keep the dog. You're NOT an idiot. Let your husband realize whether or not it's worth losing his wife because he hates something you cherish. If he doesn't think you're worth it, then let him go...if it's not the dog, it'll be something else down the road. You don't need somebody like that in your life.
2006-11-13 06:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by Alleycat 5 · 6⤊ 2⤋
If I had to choose between man or dog I'd choose the dog. Remember he's mans best friend. I would never marry an animal hater. My husband and I have 3 cats and 1 dog. Thank God that he's an animal lover.
2006-11-13 06:08:37 · answer #4 · answered by Gabby 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I think your husband is being very unreasonable and inconsiderate for you. You had your dog before you got together with him, so he should've known what he getting himself into. Your husband is very self-centered to make you choose between him and your dog. To make you give up your dog is being very selfish. If I were you, I hate to say it, but I'd give up your husband. If he wanted someone all to himself, he shouldn't have married someone with a pet! Go with your instincts. If he's like this with a dog, I can just imagine what he'll be like down the road with your friends. Consider this a warning sign.
2006-11-13 06:12:50 · answer #5 · answered by chicyuna 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Keep the dog. If he acts this way over an animal i would hate to see how he would act over a child. In time he should get over it if he doesn't and he divorces you because of it look at it as his loss and your gain. If my husband EVER told me I couldn't have something and caused a huge problem in our marriage because of it I know the first thing he would have and that is divorce papers!
2006-11-13 06:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by c0mplicated_s0ul 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Well - I can't imagine falling in love much less marrying someone who didn't like dogs being that I spend so much time with mine - and training other people's dogs.
Why doesn't he like the dog? Does Maya do something annoying that perhaps you could work on with some training?
That said - if you can't work a compromise, try finding a GOOD home for your dog, or another home for your husband
2006-11-13 06:14:05 · answer #7 · answered by dobes 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Oh, honey, I'm sorry!
In my opinion, if you husband can't see how important the dog is to you then he's not worth it. Regardless of how he feels about it, he should be understanding and compassionate at least towards you and your wants and needs! Hell, you did it for him by getting rid of the dog. Time for him to sit back and shut up, or you need to find a man to love you for who you are. And I truly believe that our pets are part of who we are.
2006-11-13 06:08:35 · answer #8 · answered by KJ 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I would say the husband is the idiot. If he didn't like the dog when you got together why did he marry you then?
2006-11-13 06:06:28 · answer #9 · answered by lovemybabies04 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
You came as a package - you AND your dog. He sounds like he is trying to control you. I would give him one option and one only - either learn to live you AND your dog, or find himself another place to live and sign divorce papers immediately. You are NOT the idiot, he is the control freak.
2006-11-13 06:11:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋