Not to long ago I started seeing this guy casually. It started out as an easy way to get laid, but I think I am starting to have feelings for him. We spend a lot of time together and we get along great, add in the fact that we already act like a couple most of the time, and you have me very confused. I am not sure if I should just walk away and end it and avoid being hurt, or if I should take it to the next step. And if I do take it to the next step what the best way of going about that is. If anyone has any suggestions or has been through this kind of thing before, your answers would be most appreciated. Thanks in advance!
2006-11-13 05:55:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to find out where you stand with him. If he doesn't feel the same way you do you need to cut ties to avoid getting hurt further. If I were you I would not do this kind of thing again. I do not think it is possible to have an on going sexual relationship with another person without developing feelings of some sort for a woman. We are very emotional and loving beings. We're sensitive. Many men can do this because they are not. Take care of yourself first.
2006-11-13 06:04:25 · answer #1 · answered by Jules 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In life we have to make a series of choices and with those choices there is chance and that's what you need to do take a chance because most of the time we have friends with benefits there usually comes a time one of the two is going to be ready to take it to another level. You need to sit him down and tell him just like your saying it to us what you felt from the start to where you are now and tell him y'all get along so great you think that y'all could really be good together as a real couple. Good Luck!
2006-11-13 14:05:39 · answer #2 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honey being that the relationship started out as cut friends there isnt much chance that he want more but you would know better then me take a chance ask him how he feels about you. do not set yourself up for failure what if he doesnt feel the same be able to be ok with that you are a smart girl you will be ok
2006-11-13 14:00:11 · answer #3 · answered by kindra1988 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first i think you should ask him what he thinks straight up and go from there if he just wants to continue as friends and you are having feelings then i think you should walk away because you will only get hurt...
2006-11-13 14:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by scadandi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats sorta complicated... here is how i would approach it... next time you two go out go for a walk and casually bring up what you have and what you both think about it... how you feel about it... see how he feels and then ask if you would be open to being more... and if you get thinking he wants this??? ask him out... i hope all works out for you... hugs...
2006-11-13 14:02:31 · answer #5 · answered by jeans0079 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you tell him how you feel, and ask what he thinks. If he doesn't feel the same, then I would end it to avoid getting hurt.
2006-11-13 13:58:54 · answer #6 · answered by missyhardt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits...? Fabulous idea, right? Great sex, no commitment... can it possibly be any better?!
Up until the time one person's feelings get hurt...
2006-11-13 13:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by Wedding Crasher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave some of your stuff at his place, if he doesnt object leave some more and spend more time there, or better yet tell him how you feel and use your intuition to guide you
2006-11-13 13:59:37 · answer #8 · answered by F1antasyMaN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive never seen sex with benefits become anything more no matter how bad you want it to. guys are sexist they think its fine for them to have sex casually but the girl that they do it with they do not respect. believe me
2006-11-13 13:59:24 · answer #9 · answered by grace07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you get along good then go for it just talk to him and hope that he wants that too
2006-11-13 14:00:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋