So, I've been seeing this guy casually for about 11 months. We have fun together. He's cute, I'm cute. We get along famously. Sex is great between us, we're a perfect fit for each other. I've met his friends, etc, etc, etc.
But here's the thing, he keeps telling me that he "likes things just the way they are". Meaning let's keep up the good, casual sex.
What's up with this? It's driving me crazy. I want more!!! Any suggestions?
2006-11-13 05:51:27 · 23 answers · asked by rugoodenuf4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Meaning of -- "Likes things the way they are" well since ur giving it up and there is no committment.. ummm what guy wouldn't want to keep things that way? I mean when did sex become something that u just do w/ random guys? Its out of control!!!!!!! If u r giving him sex and not making him have a committment then that's what ur goin get !
2006-11-13 06:10:56 · answer #1 · answered by ~B~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to comitt obviously, and why would he have to.......he has u when he wants u, sex when he wants to yet still gets to live his life without commitment........this is a guy's dream. If you want more then u need to not be so readily available to this guy, that way u will see if he truly wants u in his life or just the convenience of u. It's been 11 months and that's long enough to give him what he wants. I would back off and see what happens. When u are not at his beckon call then u will know for sure what he wants.
2006-11-13 05:59:35 · answer #2 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have made yourself way too available to meet his needs. I like to refer to the old saying: "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" Which means, of course he is gonna like things the way they are, he's getting sex when he wants it. The reason you are having sex with him is because you think he is going to leave you if you don't. If he really likes you for you he will take the next step in your relationship. If not, go find someone else. There's someone out there for everyone. You need to tell him what you expect out of this relationship, if not you are wasting your time. Move on.
2006-11-13 05:58:13 · answer #3 · answered by Loola 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you picked the wrong guy and he only wants you for sex and nothing else. Talk to him about it and tell him that you want more in your relationship than just sex and see how he reacts to it. If he still insist that he likes things the way they are. Then you should just move on and find a guy who is willing to be in a relationship with you.
2006-11-13 06:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you get involved sexually way too fast. Who wants to buy the whole truck when you are giving out the ice cream for free? Seriously I promise you he is using you for nothing other than sex and occasionaly fun. He probably has 3 other girls he does the same thing with.
2006-11-13 05:53:39 · answer #5 · answered by Mike Hunt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, how old are you and this guy? and have you ever told him what you want out of this relationship? if you have and that was his reply, then you either stay as what you are doing now or move on. you are allowing the casual relationship that's why it's convenient for him. that is sometimes our problem, we are too soft and scared to let go because we always use our hearts before our mind. be tough, you deserve more. goodluck
2006-11-13 05:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by toffee-ettes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 09:24:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're picking guys who only want sex. try taking things slower with a guy that you might be serious about, and see where that goes. or, try having a serious conversation about it, and if he's not interested in having more, then you might need to let go of him. when that happens, he might decide he really does want more than what you both have right now.
2006-11-13 05:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by bosox.girl23 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah you gave up the goodies too soon
you could try putting things on hold with him and give him the reason that you wanted to see other people, and he takes up too much of your time... see if he comes crawling back
2006-11-13 05:55:02 · answer #9 · answered by ooh baby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You keep dating the wrong guys. You keep giving the goodies away for free! What do you expect?
2006-11-13 05:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by kja63 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋